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Resuming your sex life

Janessa • Mama to 1 amazing little boy, wife, babywearer, photographer, nerd.
I'm 10 weeks postpartum now (baby was late) and my husband and I still haven't attempted any sort of intimacy. I have no sex drive because of the pills I'm on for my PPD, so that certainly doesn't help. He hasn't been pushy at all and there were several months during my pregnancy we didn't do anything, because it was uncomfortable, but I feel like the longer we wait the more awkward it becomes. The problem is, our son is sleeping in our room, right next to our bed (in the rock & play). He usually has one longer sleep stretch to start the night so he probably wouldn't be bothered if we were quiet, but I feel weird with him in there. I know most people room share for the first few months, so how did you go about this?
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Ca

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We've kept her in the room and also in her room where we could hear her. Honestly, I haven't had much of a sex drive either and didn't throughout my pregnancy. He just initiates and I feel bad for saying no all the time. Once we get into it it's usually fine and actually feels good. 

Ka

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The first time she was in our room & it was 3 weeks PP we have sex probably 5 times a week at 11 weeks PP now, sometimes she's in our room sometimes not :) I mean she's 11 weeks old & unlikely she'd remember anything any way & she's always been asleep :) 

K

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I'm 11 weeks pp and we haven't had sex yet. Mainly because I still haven't stopped bleeding. It's so frustrating !! 

K

K ✨ • Jun 26, 2015
Yeah, I had an ultrasound last week. No tissue. Doc thinks the pill I'm on may not be suitable for me and causing breakthrough bleeding. Still in the process of finding the right one.

Kr

Kris • Jun 26, 2015
Have you been checked for remaining tissue? It is very unusual to bleed past 6-8 weeks pp.

Kr

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Left the baby where he was and we did it in the guest room or the hallway or the closet. We were bed sharing at the time though. I don't think I'd feel weird about doing it in the same room as long as not the same bed. 

Ca

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We finally were intimate last night, I'm 11 weeks pp and we hadn't slept together sense I was 8 weeks pregnant. Out son was asleep on the couch and we did it on the floor right there, he slept right threw it. It's something new parents have to learn to work past..

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Ree • Jun 17, 2015
Oh yeah I understand that! My first trimester we didn't bc it didn't want to & then at 12 weeks they found a subchorionic hemorrhage so we were scared to do anything.

Ca

Cassie • Jun 17, 2015
yea we had a scare at 8 weeks after having sex, I was on the ground crying in pain. thought we were having a miscarriage so after that we just could bring ourselves to do it

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Ree • Jun 16, 2015
I understand that! Lol we didn't do anything my first trimester & the first half of the second because we were both scared! Lol

Ka

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We had sex for the first time at 4 weeks pp, I stopped bleeding at 2. I didn't have stitches just a few small tears. But the baby was beside the bed in his rock n play. We've only had sex a handful of times since, I'm just not in the mood. Could be because I'm so tired and we haven't been getting along either. Plus the baby sleeps with us most of the time so that leads to no sex life. And now I'm on depo and I'm spotting ALL the time! My first period after baby was 9 weeks pp and it was 2.5 week! 😁😳

Re

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We do the first two. 
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