I just found out that my ex (who still lives at home with his parents) had his parents buy him nursery items. Complete bedding set, stroller and car seat. Does it make me look bad or controlling to ask his to run it by me first since I'm so worried about the safety of certain items? For example he got the quilted crib bumper and I am against those and opting for the mesh kind since its breathable. Could I ask him to return it and get the kind I'm comfortable with??