How much sex should a 22yr old have with his/her fiance a month?

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We are engaged and love each other we live together .. both of us work a lot and help each other out.
. but we rarely have sex ... .I figured that maybe hes just really tired and or is going thru depression so I stopped pressing the issue ... but I am feeling sad I know my body isnt the best shape (195lbs)but neither is his(250)... and hes said since it is so hot out(90s) he doesn't want to because of the heat and doesnt like the feeling of our sweaty bodies rubbing.... and if the fall or spring when its not so hot he just doesnt really try to have sex then either ....

When we kiss and touch it usually goes like this :
 kiss, touching, *attempts sexfor 10 ~15 mins*  we stop and I give him a hand job or bj and he sleeps leaving me unsatisfied and sweaty....

Or like this :
He RARELY gets the urge to have sex but I dont feel like going thru that ^ so I just cut to the chase and give him a HJ or BJ :_/

What can I do ? I really love him and tryed to bring this up but I need help

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Well quit giving him bj/hj leave him unsatisfied

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My husband is 27 and 300 pounds, im 27 and 110 pounds...we have sex atleast once every single day. We both get soaked in sweat, but showering after gets rid of that! He makes sure im satisfied before him 95% of the time and the other 5 % he has to do it after hes already done, but he always makes sure im satisfied! Sounds like hes making excuses and id b curious as to why. You should definitely talk to him about this asap. Its not fair to u to constantly b left unsatisfied. I would hate for u to get married and it not work because of this

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I'm sorry honey. It varies. You guys have to make time for each other, spark that fire up make an effort. You also need to have some pleasure so maybe no more hand jobs or blow jobs and see if he starts initiating. 
I'm 32 very out of shape my husband is 30 best shape of his life and we have sex every day. We have kids but we make time for ourselves. But I was were you were before and didn't end well.
Best of luck honey.

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Stop giving him bjs and handjobs for a while and he will have an urge to have sex and so will you, try it lol 
Try to change things up or it may turn into a routine.

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i'd be lying if i say me and my SO have sex more than 4-5 times a month. i end up satisfying myself about twice a week. and we've only been married 3 months.

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Lack of sex isn't always an indicator for a person not wanting you sexually. Some people just have low sex drive, but if he wants bj's all the time maybe that isn't it. 
I personally used to be fine with sex like once every week or two, but my hubby ALWAYS wanted it. Communication is your best friend in any relationship problems, but definitely here. Be open with him about your feelings & ask him to come up with a solution together.

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My SO rarely wants sex too :/ he doesn't want hand jobs or bjs though lol he says he has a low sex drive and that he gets nothing out of sex and that sex means nothing :/

We have sex as little as once a month these days and I hate that it bothers me because I need to respect the fact that he just isn't into it but it's hard because I don't have a low sex drive and I want that closeness with him ect

It also worries me cause I want kids in the not too distant future but how are we meant to try if he doesn't want sex?

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Each relationship is different. You have to find out what works for yall.

How much sex should a 22yr old have with his/her fiance a month?

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