Does anyone else feel judged by same-age peers who don't want kids yet??

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I will be 25 in August and my fiancé will be 42 in October. We are to be married September 2nd and have been TTC for only a month. This will be my first child and his first as well.

Every one of my friends that are my age find it weird that anyone would want kids at our age. I haven't told anyone except my grandmother that we are TTC. I feel more than ready to have kids: I'm sick of being selfish and feel a part missing inside. My friends are more concerned with drinking and going out and I'm just not about that. My fiancé is definitely ready for kids, especially at his age.

Does anyone else feel like a black sheep?? I can't wait to have mommy friends when that time comes but it's kind of hard being in the middle right now.

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I was 19 when I had my daughter.  People would down on me for being a teen mom. They told me I'd never go to college.  Now I'm a stay at home mom attending graduate school to get my Masters in professional counseling and I've been married to my daughter's father for five wonderful years.  Haters gonna hate!  I'm 23 now and we are ttc#2. I've accomplished so much and I was a teen mom.  My friends think I'm crazy for trying again but I want to have our second child before I get my masters degree.

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I'm 20, my SO is 26. Everyone my age is concerned with getting fucked up & doing all kinds of stupid stuff, but I'm 6 weeks preggo today. I'm more then ready to share my life with someone who will actually love me unconditionally & mean more then life itself to me.

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Honey who gives 2 FUCKS what they want. Life is too short. Do you & care for no one else. I am 22 I'm 17 weeks .... we started TTC at 21. My husband  is 24. Idc what others want. It's our life.

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People didn't like it when I first had my daughter at 21.  But you just have to do what is best for you and no one else.  No one can live your life for you., so do what you want.   People will always judge for one reason or not

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I hate that too! I'm 22 just got my bfp a on Thursday! But I have had people tell me before you're too young live your life more but the way I look at it is my life isn't over once I have kids it's just a new chapter that me and my hunny are ready for! Best of luck to you :)

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I got pregnant with my daughter at 20... It was unplanned. Same story with me... Many said I wouldn't finish college, etc... But I'm graduating nursing school in less than a year ☺️ we are currently TTC #2 and some people think it's crazy but our daughter is almost 2yo and that's what we want for our family. It can be tough when others judge but ultimately it's not their life.

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My two close friends have absolutely no desire to have kids right now. I have maybe casually mentioned to one that we're trying but I don't talk about it with them. It's hard because my husband gets tired of me talking about it..

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So my bff thinks I'm crazy because I don't want to have anymore children after 30 and she says she's waiting until she's at least 30! We are both 25 and I have a 18month old and currently ttc another. By 50 I want all of my children grown an gone. I feel like some of my friends are going to regret it when they still have school aged children, and me and my SO can go back to chasing each other naked in the house every day, drinking early in the day, an sporadic get always like we used to...

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Everyone is different in my eyes there is no right or wrong time to have a baby as long as both parents to be feel ready then there really is no issue and people shouldn't be so judgemental. It's a choice that you and your partner have both chosen to make and it has no effect on your friends lives.

If they ain't happy for you and you SO for wanting to take the next step in your relationship and life together then I feel they ain't "true" friends.

Good luck to you both and lots & lots of baby duck your way.

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I got a lot of crap at first about wanting to have kids because I'm only 20 and my husband is 22 but honestly I really dont care and we decided to just keep it to ourselves when we finally actually set out mines in wanting a kid . Now all of those people who were judging are now begging us to have a kid

Does anyone else feel judged by same-age peers who don't want kids yet??

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