We aren't married and I'm not sure that we will get married in all honesty. We've been together for around three years (with a break in between) but we are a strong unit and I do think we'll stay together. However, I'm not sure that I want to have a different name to my daughter and SO? He is VERY work oriented (and focussed on himself...) so I will be raising her for the most part and will stay off work to look after her until she goes to school...what's your opinion? Honesty please!