You go into your bf/husband's computer history and see he's been on Facebook searching for girls and going through their photos. You see several different women with each entire photo album looked through. What do you do?

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My boyfriend of 2 years tells me that all men do that and that any other women wouldn't care and that I'm overreacting. So I'm taking a poll to see how my fellow women would react.

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I have this exact problem with my husband. We have been married for 10 years and he has a serious issue with scoping other wimans profiles and pictures. Not just normal pictures but ones that are ass out and sexy. These are woman that I obviously will never be able to come close to looking like on my best dau. He says the same thing all men do it. But for me thats no excuse. I ruinned my body to give him two beautiful daughters its very sickening to me that he thinks I should just except it with no questions. It also hits my own self asteam very hard. Not to mention it makes me not want to trust him. I gave him a ultimatum if it's worth it to look at all these other woman then ge can do it, but I wont be around to feel like im second fiddle to woman he doesn't even know. If he doesn't care that it hurts me then I dont care to have him around. Relationships are suppose to be based on trust. Like I trusted to be the only person in his view that he loves. If he loves, values, and respects me then he has no reason to be in these womans profiles. Also to tge comment that all men do it, what I told my husband was, oh yeah all men do it? Well if all men turned gay would you. Just because you think all men do it doesn't make it right. Men with class and respect for their woman dont do it. It just shows how much respect you actually have for me!

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If you think it's wrong, voice it. You don't need strangers to validate your feelings. They're YOU feelings. He should respect you enough not to do something that bugs you.

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I search for exes on Instagram or FB. I'm happily married, my curiosity gets the best of me. I was stalk, find out what they're doing, if they got fat, what their new gf looks like. I don't see the big deal.

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This is my post, i didn't want to feel embarrassed by the negative comments so i made it anonymously. But i see a few of you who say i shouldn't need to look through his things and i shouldn't, this all started with me using his computer one day, i lost the page i was on and went in the history to retrieve it, and that's when i saw all of this. I've never been one to check phones or anythi g like that but when i noticed this it made me lose a little trust and feel a little insecure. Am i not pretty enough that he needs to look at other girls pictures and stuff? I let it go the first time and then i decided i would check back in a couple weeks (maybe he just had a moment of weakness) but when i finally did decide to check back i noticed more women he'd been snooping on ones i knew, ones i didn't know,  merely every hot girl that came up on his news feed, so i finally said something. He has a way of being immediately defensive when you accuse him of something, so naturally he got angry. I got the whole "i don't see the big deal?!" and "its not like I'm f*cking them, but i could be, would you like that!?" So i very calmly explain that i wasn't angry with him buy i was upset,  my feeling were hurt and my confidence stunned because of this. He still insisted that he didn't know what the big deal was, and i haven't seen this as much lately but he the fact that he tried to convince me that "any other woman wouldn't care" made me wonder if i was in fact just being crazy. This poll gave me the confidence to know that there are in fact women out there who do feel the same way as me and i thank you all for input and opinions and feelings.  You're all very wonderful :)

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Men go thru "what if" phases.

Especially when they are about to make a big commitment they will wonder what if I never broke up with so and so, or what if i had the guts to ask out whats her name, is the grass greener?

Thus could be the explanation.

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You're not alone. I went through the same thing. And now he's just more secure with his devices

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If you have to go through your mans computer history like a detective, there's either no trust and communication in your relationship, or your intuition is right and he's a piece of shit. I would question why you felt the need to do that in the first place and reevaluate your relationship

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This never happens because the only reason I go through computer history is to find shit I looked up and forgot to save. I trust him, I have no need to be going through his history and snooping through his shit

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My husband is doing it caught him tonight but he doesn't know I saw. And it really hurts makes me not trust him. I'm very conflicted on saying something or doing the same thing to him and letting him catch me so I can say how does it male you feel? And when he answers yell him yeah that's how I feel when you do it. Doesn't feel so good huh...lately I can feel tension between us and I'm so angry with him i don't really want to look at him when I tell him i love him he mumbles it's back and doesn't look at me. I don't know if it's out of guilt or he just doesn't care about me any more

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Not all men do that shit and MOST women absolutely care

You go into your bf/husband's computer history and see he's been on Facebook searching for girls and going through their photos. You see several different women with each entire photo album looked through. What do you do?

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