Is anyone else scared to be on top??

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My SO always talks about me like I'm something special and someone anyone would kill to be with... But I'm 50lbs over weight, I have extremely limited experience and I have no idea what I'm doing... Like ever. He's always on top because I know that will get us both there but I fear he's going to get bored with me and feel like its routine. I know he would love it and its secretly what it hopes for I'm just scared that I'm going to ruin his fantasies.  Has anyone else felt like I do and I have advise for how to overcome it?

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Im literally 80lbs heavier than my s.o. hes very skinny and im very thick! I was very self conscious about being on top but once i openly expressed how i felt he changed my whole perspective with....

"Baby girl, in my country (africa) bigger woman has riches, let me in your gold mine so i can fill u with more gold!!!"

Seems corny but i immediately realized that he loves all of me (jelly rolls and all) and that my size is irrelevant to us feeling amazing! I enjoy riding my man!

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Me!!!! Woah you have exactly spelled out my concerns! I always have insecurities about my body as i am a little on the plump side although SO loves my curves. Im always at the bottom bcos my tummy r so obvious if i am on top and i am also afraid of my weight being too heavy! He says "well eventually we gotta try honey". :) Sweet of him but well... Haha!

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He thinks your perfect, which he should. i didn't like being on top but my husband always insisted so i told him i suck at this so help me, so he did. He was super understanding and bam. No better way then him to tell you exactly what he wants. I hope that helps. Good luck!

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Try reverse cowgirl. So much easier and better! I feel way less self conscious and its awesome. Just try it, and be confident. He'll love it no matter what :)

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I hated being on top at first! It was uncomfortable, awkward, he could see everything I was embarrassed about. But I found out that he gets so hyped up just looking up at me. And I'm a little self conscious but knowing from him that he still thinks I'm sexy... I want on top every time.. And it's by far the most pleasure able for us both! So talk to him!! Do something to make you feel sexy, buy new lingerie or something for you 2 to enjoy together!

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Well im average weight  (57kg) but that's out favourite way, i dont think weight matters. Try and get him to help you out like my S/O would move my body and push me down the first few times, then when i realised what he liked im able to confidently be on top but im also a horse rider so my legs are really strong. Tell him your concerns because it is nice for the men to have a break from pleasuring us. Me and my S/O switch positions but im tiny compared to him *hes average weight, 6ft and a footballer* so i was scared about pleasuring him too thinking expectations would be high but dont be scared its amazing! And if yous dont like it then hey-ho you dont have to do it again but get him to help you x

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I was the same way and I am still a little self conscious after giving birth to our son bc I'm the biggest now than I've been our whole relationship. It use to help me by keeping a shirt on while I was on top. He always tells me how sexy and beautiful I am which obviously helps. He's the only guy to make me feel that way. I just get to the point where I try not to think about it bc ik he loves me being on top and when I take control. Talk to your man and don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

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Girl I am more overweight than you and I LOVE being on top and so does my fiance. Don't be self conscious. You are not going to crush him. Use your arms and knees to prop yourself up and enjoy the ride!

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Nope, I'm way bigger then my SO and he loves it when I'm topm

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Being on top wasn't as awkward as I thought it would be. It takes a little bit to get your rhythm but overall I enjoy it. I thought I would be concerned about things flopping and squishing but once I'm going I don't think about those things. Just go for it.

Is anyone else scared to be on top??

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