Leaving boyfriend while pregnant?

Question

I'm 14 weeks pregnant and I love my boyfriend. But since before we got pregnant we've had issues in our relationship.

Sex has always been important to me (im 24) and no one that I've dated has ever made me feel so unwanted. He's never called me pretty or beautiful. He never makes the moves. And I'm lucky if I can get him to have sex with me once a week.

On top of the sex issue we have a bike issue. He's obsessed with his crotch rocket and pays more attention to it than to me. I absolutely hate it.

We honestly don't click anymore and even bough I love him I really feel like he doesn't love me. Any fights we've had he doesn't care and will let me walk away or won't compromise.

I'm thinking of leaving him. But I'm scared of my child being born into a broken family. I'm scared of custody battles and taking care of the baby alone. And I'm honestly afraid to not be with him. But is it really worth it to stay in a relationship that makes you feel like you're nothing?

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Reality check time!
These aren't even close to being good reasons to break it off. Relationships/marriages are WORK. If you ever want to be in a committed relationship and married, just know that it is serious work. Two people will never ever always agree on everything or get along all the time. He is going to do sh*t that annoys you ALL THE TIME, and you are going to do sh*t that annoys him ALL THE TIME. The important factor is love and if you are abused or not. If you love eachother and aren't being abused, then you WORK THROUGH IT. Please think about this...say you buy a house that you are madly in love with. The house that you have raised your child in. A window is accidentally broken in your house, the house that you have invested in, are in love with and your child depends on. Are you going to take your child and go live in a box on the streets and try to buy a new house, or are you going to fix the window? You need to change your mentality if you want a lifelong relationship. It is extremely immature to give up because you don't like his motorcycle and he doesn't call you beautiful enough (welcome to the real world, lady. I bet any woman can say the same about their husband. Do you tell him how beautiful he is and how big his penis is everyday?. Are you serious? EVERY ONE has their issues. You do too. The next guy will have his issues, and so will the next, and so will the next. Taking your baby out of a home with two loving parents for no good reason is appalling. You have some growing up to do, chick. This is the real world, nobody is perfect and no relationship is perfect but that DOES NOT MEAN IT'S NOT WORTH IT.

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I would rather bring my baby in with separated parents than to bring him into an unhappy relationship . I've been through this and leaving what the best choice for me . Best of luck .

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I was back and forth about what advice to give until the end when you said u feel like "nothing" to him. yes, it's important for children to have a mother and father, but a child is not a reason to stay together if you're that unhappy. if you get yourself a good support system in family and friends, you'll be okay no matter what happens with him and your baby will also be okay. :) good luck sweetie!

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I would tell him how you feel first. Let him know if things don't change you will leave him. Be firm. Don't act scared to te him. If he doesn't seems interested or if you don't see change occurring then leave. Being happy is important in a relationship.

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I'm 37 weeks and 5 days pregnant and have been single and doing everything on my own from the beginning. I removed myself from a
Bad relationship for my safety and my child's. I don't tolerate being disrespected. Also did I mention I'm 18 years old. If I can do it so can you. I wish you best of luck!

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Better to leave now then to have your child see the disrespect he's giving you, and arguments. Don't stay with someone just because you're having a baby together. For your child's sake, better to be broken then to have the child deal with the heartache.

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Here is the deal, I would have sex every night if I could, my husband not so much. Not every guy is sexual or wants it all the time. And that is okay. What you need to do is talk to him about your feelings. Don't accuse or blame him, just make points like, "I feel like you don't think I'm beautiful or sexy?" "I feel like you never want to me intimint with me anymore." "I feel like I am taking a back seat to your bike."  You HAVE to talk to him about what you are feeling. If he doesn't make an effort after you expressed yourself than it may be time to go. Your child will be fair better off with a happy single mother than in a depressed mom in a relationship. Good luck honey.

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That's really scary and I am sorry that you're in such a tough position. Yes the custody can get stressful and all the other things that come with coparenting. But my advice to you would be to leave. You will find a guy who loves you and your child. It may not be immediate but that day will come. I think it is harder to raise a child in a household where his/her parents don't get along than in to separate families.

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Have you tried telling him this & explaining to him what u need out of your relationship? Just so that yall do have the chance to work out before ending it for good. If yall are unable to provide one another with the needs that yall each want out of a relationship & aren't willing to then I would end it.

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