The "Back Door"

Sharon
Okay ladies. Hubby and I have been together for 5 years, married almost 3. I am really reluctant to have sex "back there" because it is very painful and shocking to my system that my blood pressure drops to the point I almost pass out. We have only successfully done this once, and I was mentally and emotionally scarred afterwards. So I have forbidden entry through the "back door" since then. Hubby is very graciously endowed, which makes it more difficult for me. Any suggestions on positions, toys or techniques on how I can make this happen and actually tolerate or enjoy it?