Heartbroken 😢
My best friend of 20 years found out she was pregnant just a few months after I found out I was pregnant. Today she had an early miscarriage. I am there for her for emotional support, and I hate that there's not more I can do. I've managed to stay strong which never happens, I'm a big crybaby when I get emotional. My husband on the other hand actually cried. I think this hit home for him. pregnancy isn't always perfect, it doesn't always end with a beautiful baby in your arms. We are both absolutely heartbroken and grieving for the loss of this sweet baby.
Since I am pregnant and she's experiencing such a heartbreak, I feel a sort of survivors guilt. I'm concerned that it will seem insensitive of me to be happy about my pregnancy now that the big things are happening like the first movements and finding out the gender (which happens tomorrow). I've always turned to her to share things but I feel like there's a fine line between what's ok and what's not. If I don't tell her the big things because I'm worried I'll upset her, then I'm scared she would be hurt and feel like I didn't want to include her. But if I do tell her I feel like I'm being a jerk and rubbing her face in it. Neither of these thing would ever be my intention!
I'm so torn! I want to respect her feelings right now but I also want to share the good things in my life with her because she's such a huge part of my life.
I guess I just don't know proper etiquette in this situation and am seeking advice.
If you've ever miscarried what are the things you wish that people would have said or done (or not done) differently? Thank you for your advice this is such a sad time and I just want to be sure I don't add more stress to the situation.
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