With my 1st kid I tore so bad up toward my clitorus and on my perineum. I have bad scaring by my clitorus from a bad stitch job or at least that's how i feel. The nurse asked me if I had any thing I wanted to be different with this birth from my last and I said yes I don't want to tear. I never did kegels and I tried to massage my perineum but it hurt. Didn't have sex since 4wks pregnant so I just knew my vagina was done for with this birth. My doctor and the nurses coached me so well that I only ended up with 1 stitch and she debated on if she wanted to put that in. My 1st babies head was 13in. My second was 13.5in im soooo thankful to have had so little trauma done to