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He doesn't want a baby. If you want one so bad and willing to raise the kid by yourself then go to a sperm bank. Don't make him a parent before he is ready. He is still legally responsible for the kids if he is the father.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. I miscarried about 8 months ago at about 10 w 2 d. We were excited and I've wanted nothing but a baby ever since, however he doesn't want kids yet. He is 30 and I am 26. We both have college degrees and well paying jobs. I could support a child comfortably on my own and I'm thinking about stopping my birth control. What if I just got pregnant and then walked away if he didn't want to be involved? How wrong is it to want a baby more than anything (even if that child might be raised without a father?). I was raised without mine and turned out successful and happy. Reasons why I shouldn't TTC...ready go
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Gross!! If you want a baby that bad go to a sperm bank or find a willing participant. Women like you, who trick men into getting them pregnant give the rest of us a bad name.
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agree. go to a sperm bank. the family court system is a nightmare, and you never know how ugly a custody battle will get. if you want a child and can support one, get thee single and use a donor. lots of women do it!
Having a child on your own (there are tons of donor options!) can be immensely fulfilling, and you have the added security of never having to deal with a custody dispute. If being a mother is that important to you, but your husband won't change his mind, then you have to decide which you want more. Luckily you are young and have time to think about it.
Iv wanted a baby for years. I never purposely tried to get pregnant without my SO's permission. It's not just your life and a babies life your talking about, it's his as well. He will legally be responsible for another person. How is it fair to force him into father hood? Regardless if you walk away. He will still have a child. I think it's very selfish. Talk to him tell him what you want. And ask when he will be ready. Don't trick him into something he doesn't want.
I think there is a lot more going on here than just having a baby.Clearly you two need to sit down and discuss where your relationship stands and what your future together is. If you want a baby and he doesn't, it is time to move on. If you are thinking about tricking him into having a baby you clearly don't respect/love him as much as you should when preparing for a child.
I would say this is a topic to talk to him about. I wouldn't lie about it though and stop taking bc if he doesn't know. He has his reasons for not wanting a kid right now and that wouldn't be fair to him. If you really want to settle down and have a kid right now maybe you two are on different paths. Nothing is wrong with that but it's just not meant to be if that's the case. If he wants kids in the future see how it goes and wait.
Well this is an interesting post for sure. The only reason I can see for not just stopping birth control and getting pregnant without him really having a say is that it's wrong to do that. You are with this man because you love him and as such you should talk as a couple about it, walking away from him come rely if you get pregnant and he doesn't want it is gonna feel shitty and in the long run he would still have parental rights. Not all men are overjoyed to be having a baby at first, he could be upset for months then slowly get excited about it, you never know. This is definitely something to talk to him about and come to a decision as a couple.
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