Did you tell your SO when you were TTC?

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Sometimes when I see teens ttc on here I wonder if they've told their SO.

I have had people say to me "sometimes men need a push- such as a baby to commit." Or have talked about how they stopped taking the pill without telling their partner.

I think that it's wrong and misleading. What do you think?

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If you think a man needs a push to commit like pregnancy, you should be committed. That's insane, and that's how you end up in volitile, unhealthy, abusive relationships. It's abusive to TTC without the others knowledge.

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That's really wrong to ttc and not tell your partner. Really, really unfair.

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It's not only your decision to have a baby, it's yours and your SOs. Imagine if you only used pull out method and he decided he wanted a baby so he'd ejaculate inside of you. You'd be pissed wouldn't you? Same goes for them.(Yes, they do not get pregnant, not quite the same of course, but it's the closest example I could think of)

Because you trusted them to pull out, just like he trusts you to take pills, etc..

It's not fair to men to think it's only up to the woman to have kids.

If you're in a relationship and are getting serious, be sure to communicate your expectations to your partner, I've always been very open with the fact that I don't want kids, it's the fair thing to do to avoid confrontations in the future.

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It takes two to make a baby. If course your partner should know if you're TTC. Keeping it a secret is downright disturbing.

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My husband actually told his dad we were trying and I just happened to over hear him say it. I was so excited, because he knew how much I wanted a baby... He just never showed much interest. 
But, that made things a little awkward around his dad for a while lol

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My boyfriends are usually the ones that want to have a baby & not me. I've actually broken up with men because I wasn't ready. In my opinion, a baby won't make a relationship stronger. It may actually make it harder. I am currently TTC but wouldn't be if I didn't think it was at the right time & with the right person.

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Wow the 5.4% that said 'no' i feel bad for your SO. Thats pathetic...😒

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This is why a man can take a girls word for it when she says she is on birth control everyone needs to be in charge of there own body including men

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I voted yes for "its wrong to ttc without the others knowledge!" :) i hope theres not people who actually do this

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So wrong to make any fertility decisions while you're Ina relationship without discussing it with your SO in my opinion. I have a family member whose husband thinks they're ttc, but she's on birth control and flat out told me she never wants a child. He does and always has, she doesn't and never has. I really feel like relationships need to have better and more honest communication than that, in order to work.

Did you tell your SO when you were TTC?

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