My boyfriend and I will be together 2 years next month. We've been thru hell and back he's cheated on me and we'll I've never been able to trust him fully after that and that's been over a year ago. We have a son and one on the way together. I want to have that relationship where we can look at each other's phone whenever we please but he guards it all the time. Putting it face down. If he leaves it charging helways calls me in the other room so I won't look at it. And if we're sitting beside each other he sits back so I won't see his screen. If I ask him about it he gets defensive and threatens to break his phone. He will not by any means let me look thru his text messages. He says he loves me and wants to marry me but how can I possibly approach him without him getting defensive. I've told him plenty of time this is the one thing that stands in the way of me trusting him again. We have 2 kids I don't want to be at this level of distrust and I'm scared to marry someone that I can't fully trust. Don't get me wrong he's a great father and everything the phone is just a problem.