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Sounds to me like he doesn't want to be with you but wants you to be the one to leave. Sorry
Honestly do not know what to do!!!
My fiance and I have been together for over 7 years. We have had our share of ups and downs, but we managed to get through them...so I thought.
Recently, he has been treating me not in a very nice way and we have been constantly arguing. He has even been talking to his coworkers about our problems. All of a sudden he comes to me saying he needs some space, and to figure out if he wants to be in this relationship. We do have a child together and I have another child from a previous relationship.
After doing some talking, he decides he will stay to see if things work out, but he needed to confess something to me. He told me years ago when him and I started dating, he cheated on me with a married woman. We were going through some problems then and she was having problems with her husband. They worked at the same place then, so they became close. He would go to her house while I was attending school. He said it only happened twice, and then they both realized it was a mistake.
Now, he figures I should either still work on our relationship or leave him. Others have told me since it happened so long ago to just forgive him and work on the relationship, especially for the kids sake. I'm still in shock and can only think of him and her when I see him. I really don't know what to do.
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I would leave there is no trust what so ever!! He hid it from you for all this time and now during a rocky road he wants to confess? I would live the rest of my life wondering if he would do it again and you never finding out. He slept with her 2 times and then came to u acting like everything is fine? He disrespected you as well as her husband!! I would leave cause It will happen again and you will be left in the dark.
If it was along time ago and he only did it twice and i now barely telling you then it simy means that his concience was not leaving him alone or was not at peace with himself therefor im sure was picking at you and fighting so he can feel good about himself and is now saying he needs space. Give him that space. Tell him that he should leave and figure out what he really wants and you can use that space also to find in your heart to forgive him. He is using you now by saying he is just going to stay to SEE IF it works out. Sorry im not usually one to give advice to leave. But im in a similar boat my husband actually left and now wants to come back its not easy. i hope u get the andwer u are looking for. At the end of the night just listen to what your heart says. Just dont allow him to belittle you or your worth
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