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My longtime boyfriend and I just recently started progressing from just dry humping with clothes on to pretty much sex. I feel bad because I'm just not good at giving handjobs. Also, he's been wondering if I can start giving him bjs. I've never been fond of the idea because it's just weird for me, but I really want to please him since he's done so much for me.. I feel like it's not even on both sides. He always comes when we're doing things, but I feel like it's him doing more work to make up for me. He says that he gets enough pleasure out of simply watching and being with me, but I know there's a part that wishes I were better.  He's been so easygoing about it, and has never pressured me or anything and takes his time making sure that I'm doing good before we move along in he process, so I want to do something for him. Any advice? Any tips?

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1. Everyone sucks at handjobs. I'm not found of them at all just because he could do it at home if he wanted. (Doesn't mean it's not a good way to get him going.) 2. If you don't feel comfortable giving blowjobs, then don't. He seems like an understanding guy and you shouldn't put pressure on yourself to be 'equal.'

I can understand how it's hard not too but it's a learning process. I agree with the other comments on communication. It's best to talk about how far yall would each like to go, where you are willing to compromise and what makes you feel good.

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Been there and done that. All I can say is COMMUNICATION! :) Although it might seem awkward, talking about things is the best thing you can do. If you can't talk about it, you shouldn't be doing it. That being said, I was uncomfortable with bjs and still and and he knows and respects that and will not ask for them anymore and I have the ability to change my mind later on. As for the handjobs, just honestly ask him what he likes. I can make my man go crazy because I've learned what he likes and how he likes things done. A good relationship is based on communication. And from what you've said about him, he sounds like a really nice and understanding guy. Just talk to him :)

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Theres a part of you that knows? Because he told you or you are inseacure? You have to communicate.

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