My bf and I broke up two weeks ago, after 3-1/2 years. We've been trying to remain friends so we've talked to each other everyday, casual conversations.But tonight he told me that he doesn't want to lead me on thinking that we'll be together because he doesn't see that happening. He said there was just something missing, and he doesn't know what that was. He did say he wants us to be friends and sees us being friends till we're old. I want us to get back together, not right now but definitely in the future. I know I'm desperate but I'm thinking that maybe because we hid our relationship in the beginning (we both agreed it was better), he never got comfortable expressing it (or maybe I'm just desperately trying to think of reasons I can come to turns with). But I want to change, I've wanted to change for a while and I've been making baby steps for months. But I'm going to push myself now. I feel like if I make the changes I want to make, it will make the difference for him. Maybe the changes will be what was missing? I'm changing for me, but he's my motivation. Am I thinking straight?