How do I talk to him?

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I posted last week about if I was being too jealous about my SO and his girl friend. How he brings her up a lot in conversations, has a cute nickname for her, texts her at least a couple times a month, and told me that he would rather break up then stop being her friend if I ever asked him to stop talking to her (which I would never do), how they went on what seems like a date to me and didn't even tell me until a month later when he brought up how jealous the girls SO was being when they had gone out for the day together an left her SO behind..... There was more too but anyways now he is going back home for 2 weeks and that's where the girl lives. I never really got a chance to talk to him about this because I don't know how to go about it. He leaves in a month and it makes me really uncomfortable that she is out there and he might still have feelings for her. So how should I go about talking to him? Should I just come straight out with it right when he opens the door and say "are you still I love with her?" I don't know how to bring it up! Please give me advice on how to go about this

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I don't think that's being too jealous. You have a right. In my opinion he's being disrespetful to you by saying he would rather break up than lose contact with her.. That's basically choosing her over you. You should definitely give him the ultimatum, you need to come first not her, she's an EX for a reason.

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If he told you he would rather you 2 break up than to end the friendship with her then there really shouldn't be any reason for you to stick around. You need to love yourself more than you love him and walk away and know that the right guy will come along the one who will put you before anyone. You shouldn't have to ask him if he's in love with her you're only going to end up hurting yourself.

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I would sit him down and talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel and ask him if he's still in love with her. To me it sounds like he is. I don't know any man or woman who'd go on a date with their ex and keep it from their SO.... you deserve the truth. Have you ever met her?

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Yea... Sorry, but I would absolutely give the ultimatum of her or me. She is an EX! Not just a long time friend. My SO is free to have girl friends, but they are a NO GO if he had a relationship with them or even had sex with them. For my peace of mind and for me to feel that he was trustworthy, I'd need to know that if I gave him the choice, he'd pick me... If he wouldn't, then he obviously isn't the one for me, because I WILL BE the most important woman in his life. Period.

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YOU should come first 
Even if that means she has to go 
End of story

There was a girl snap chatting my boyfriend with cleavage showing and her finger in her mouth captioned "I'm bored give me something to do"  
Strike 1 
We saw her in public and I didn't recognize her but I noticed how she was giving me dirty looks and I was like oh random girl mean mugging me. Cool. Then she walked up to my boyfriend and hugged him and followed us all the way out to the store. This girls intentions weren't friendship. I told him he had to end that friendship and he got mad telling me he's known her for so long. 
Let's top it all off with he fucked her sister. 
Too close for comfort. 
I told him it was me or her. 
I snap chatted her back saying don't talk to my boyfriend and she never replied and they haven't talked since. 
Good riddance.

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She is a EX, he's with you. My SO is friends with ex only because they lived beside each other and was best friends for year they thought it could be something more. I sometimes get upset when he talks about the times they had. But he knows how I feel. And there is a reason she is the ex

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