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My fiancé and I got into this huge fight and I just can't take it anymore. I am accused of cheating everyday when that has never once crossed my mind. My dad always told me that if a man accuses you of cheating, it because he has a guilty conscious. And my dad was a cheater himself. I never once thought that my boyfriend would ever cheat on me but that problem is that I am never good enough for him. I try my hardest everyday to please him and his mom. I clean her house and our house for her everyday. And that's not enough. I always wake up thinking it's a new day with a good attitude and that's never enough. But the thing is, he isn't enough for me. I want someone who will actually love me unconditionally and won't start with the name calling whenever he's mad. Always told how I'm a piece of shit and how I'm lazy and worthless. But the thing is, he is all of those. I have to clean up after him everyday. God forbid he help me make the bed. I still love him. I want to try to make things work but if they won't, it will be okay. I haven't talked to him since I broke up with him (1 hour ago) but I am going to suggest that he needs counseling. I am not 100% done. I can't be. I'm having his baby in 5 months. I still love him but this time I love me more. And I love this baby more than anything. I just want to do what is best for this baby. My boyfriend is just too stressful for me to be around. Especially when I'm pregnant. I feel like he gives me high blood pressure. I just hate to see myself put up with all the shit. It's not fair. He was in my car and he started saying how I fucked all these people (not true btw) and he wouldn't give it up. And finally I said I was done. I couldn't take it anymore. I needed him to give me my keys so that I could go. Well he said "no. You're not done" and it took him awhile to finally give me my keys. We live 20 minutes out of town and I left him there stranded. I know it's not nice but I really didn't care. He wasn't my problem anymore. I don't think he realized how far he had actually pushed me. Until he goes to counseling, I'll be happy being a single mom.

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Honey you definitely deserve better than a verbally abusive arsehole. Insecure men are the worst to be around and I agree - that until he changes, if that is even possible, they're inherently mistrusting, then you are better off without him.

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Don't go back. Find you someone who loves, and appreciates you as much as you love, and appreciate them. He sounds like a coward.

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Remember if you go back he's going to be the same (he may be nicer for a few days even a few weeks or months but ultimately he's going to let his true self show through) and it's not just you anymore. When you think about taking him back think about the fact that children learn what they witness and if your baby witnesses dad constantly abusing (verbally or otherwise) mom he or she is going to believe this is how women are to be treated. I know you don't want your son to be an abuser or your daughter to believe women deserve to be abused. And make no mistake of it verbal attacks are abuse. I know it's hard I've been there personally. You are not alone. If you don't have family to support you reach out. You need to get counseling to build yourself back up. If you need contact a domestic violence hotline. This is domestic violence. You've already taken the first and hardest step. You can do this keep moving forward don't look back

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Wow you're too beautiful for that! Oh my, you need a man who will great you right. I was always scared at the option of one day maybe having to be a single mother and my dad's wife actually told me "Well what's wrong with that? You need to do what's right for you and the baby, and if that's right, why would you care so much?" I never looked at it that way but now I'm not afraid of he possibility as much. Do what you have to do.

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Wow, im in exactly the same situation. Even my dad says the same as yours. And also high blood pressure. Facing being a single mom is very scary, but facing being in a emotionally abusive relationship would be even worse. Being a mom will only be difficult for the first while and will get easier. Being with a man like that, will kill your feelings. I feel like an empty shell sometimes. 
Somewhere in the future you will stop missing him and the pain will eventually go away and you will feel completely lived by your child. Rather have your baby grow up in 2 happy homes than one unhappy home.
I know i sound discouraging but im realistic. Im 12 weeks now, found out its a boy and my ex fiancé expects me to give him his surname, i feel that he's not here for the shitty part, then i won't allow him to step in when  it when things are great again. Since i left (2weeks) he has not even tried to see me. He doesn't own a car.
Im only giving you advice based on my experience, but i won't be dealing with the aftermath. Only mine. So please dont judge me on my choice. I just wanted to explain if you take a route similar to mine, it gets better.

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Putting up with that in the long run can not only hurt you, but your child. With my daughter, I ended up leaving him early on in my pregnancy because of how he was like that, not to mention that he was a racist pig that I ended up finding out he was a meth head. Our daughter is now 5 years old. I've done it on my own until I finally met the man of my dreams 2 years ago and we're almost 13 weeks along. My daughter has completely benefited to my leaving her father. We lived out of state when she was born and didn't move back home til she was almost 1. Since we moved back her dad seems to have gotten clean and straightened his life out and is a pretty good dad.

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If he treats you that badly....how will he treat a child? If I have a lazy day or tell my husband I am on strike he says, "Good!!!! You deserve it!" Life is too short to waste trying to change someone. People are who they are ...a new day will not change that.

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If he doesn't appreciate you now he isn't going to start anytime soon the name calling a degrading you will not stop that's how he is , an if he's acusing  you he has a guilty mind or a huge insecurity an feels not good enough for you either way u deserve way better he won't change how he is now is how he will be until the day he dies it's his personality good luck an if u decide to find something better i was a single mom it's not hard at all you can do anything you set your mind to an there's plenty of guys out there that are looking for what u r an I think Ud be better off finding a single dad

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Do not go back. That baby deserves better. He will end up neglecting it and saying you ruined his life for staying. If you are allready having a hard time now you will loose it after a baby's here. They make a relationship 1000xs harder. My husband and I were high school sweethearts togethere since 15- married at 22- had our first at 25 and some days  I still wanted to leave him in the beginning. Pregnancy and having children change things- it tests relationships. You have to have a super strong bond and a partner who is caring and puts u first. Good luck. In the end make the decision for your child that they deserve better.

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