Understanding my body better

Naomi
I've been having a hard time figuring out what's going on while I have sex. I may sound like a complete idiot, but I've had a few different partners over the years and still don't understand my body. Like when I cum or orgasm. What's the difference? It's there? Why am I sometimes dripping wet and other times even with the same partner it's not as the time before. I want to understand my body better, can anyone help?