Does anyone feel like they aren't connecting?

Question

Don't get me wrong I 100% want my baby. I have had 2 miscarriages in the past, then over a year of trying. We ended up doing IVF and we were successful on our second attempt. I thought I would be exploding with excitement. Instead I feel like I'm just waiting for something bad to happen. Because of that I don't think I'm letting myself get excited. I know I'd be devastated if something were to happen. So why can't I just be excited now? Does anyone else feel this way?

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It can be normal. You are just being protective of yourself and your fears are taking over this moment. Don't pressure yourself into thinking different cuz it will put more focus on ur fears. Just try to give yourself the task of thinking three positive things a day. Morning , midday and night, focus on something amazing and give thanks for this wonderful blessing growing in your tummy. Light is the only thing that can eliminate darkness. So by being greateful and focusing on the positive the fears start slowly fading. Then up your task and think of 6 positive things a day ! And so on. Eventually u will be there. After a loss it is normal to be fearful of another loss. But think of it this way u are letting that loss take away this new joy if u don't act proactive about it. Sending you hugs and a big hug for that blessing you have in your tummy! Have a great Sunday!

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I feel like I could have wrote this myself. Except I've had 3 miscarriages so I'm not allowing myself to get excited at all yet. I don't really have any advice because I'm still a nervous wreck but just try to take each day one day at a time :) and stay off google!!! That's been the biggest challenge for me. Any time I feel a cramp or anything I'm always on google and end up reading horror stories about miscarriages. It doesn't help at all. Good luck!!

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I feel the same way! I thought I would be much more excited to be pregnant. Don't get me wrong, in thrilled! But I just know that there is a much higher risk for miscarriages during the first 12 weeks. And I'm just so scared of that happening. Much more than I thought I would be! A part of me wants to be more excited, and knows I deserve to be, but another part of me is telling me that it's ok, and that in just trying to save myself from devastation is something terrible happened. Not that I wouldn't be devastated. It's kind of hard to explain how I feel. I feel both ways a lot of the time. It's like there is a only a certain amount of excitement I will allow myself to experience. And then it stops. I just want week 13 to get here already! I'm already half way there! That's what I keep telling myself!

Does anyone feel like they aren't connecting?

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