So me and my BF have been together for 1 and a half year and we have been living together for one year now. I am a very passionate and romantic person and I find it difficult to attain orgasm when we have sex. I have tried explaining this to him before w/o sounding demanding or bitchey but after a few weeks he does the same again. He wants a blow and then we go right to sex. How do I change that. NB: he is 20 years older than me so I don't know if that the issue.