So as y'all know I had the issue with the girl dh and I went to school with...well...she has come out a couple times and it all went good. Well...last time she came, it was late when she got here, she slept on the couch...ok..fine...I'm ok with that. I stayed up late and talked with her for a while and all was good. Later, everybody got up, I cooked breakfast, everybody ate and visited...us and the kiddos...then a couple hours later, dh comes to me and said she was ready to go home because she was afraidbi thought something was going on between them. I HAD come to the conclusion after our previous visits and heart to hearts with dh that there was nothing there and I felt better...well...after that comment...my mind started spinning again. I still believe with all my heart that there is nothing coming from dh but have really started questioning her intentions. So over the next week, I didn't hear from her at all and dh only heard from her once. Ok...fine...well...Wednesday, dh calls and says a friend if ours "C" called and said he wanted to come over...wonderful, havent seen this friend in a while..he then said. .."you're not going to like this but he wants to know if its ok if "R" comes with him." I reluctantly said ok since I really wanted to see C. Well, dh picks them up on his way home from work. They get here...R barely says two words to me... ok fine..whatever...C sang and played his guitar for a while, visited with the kids and us. .all well... plan was they were spending the night and one of us would take them home when we left in the am. Well...that was the day I was sooo emotional and when dh and I came to bed...the dam broke and he asked what was wrong. ..well I told him..mostly my mind wouldn't stop trying to put a puzzle together involving R... he held me and reassured me he loved me, was in love with me, and wasn't going anywhere and I have nothing to worry about...we had some reassurance BD :-) well. I was trying to be as quiet as possible because we live in a mobile home and C and R were in the living room..we finished, I went to get dh a drink...its 2:00am..and "they" are ready to go home!!! I don't know for sure but pretty confident it wasn't C that was ready to leave bc he practically lived with us for a while and sure he's heard us before... if R had no feelings for my dh...why would she be soo ready to go? I did not iniate the bd but was curious what her response would be if we did while she was here...she responded exactly like I thought she would.... I told dh.... I tried to be a friend to her but I just can't..not knowing with all I have what she's feeling for him...he has said that if she needs to not be in our life...he would do so. Makes me feel great that he agrees. He hadn't put the pieces together and thought I was crazy at first, but now he sees where all the little pieces to the puzzle go... and now...hopefully I can stop replaying it all in my head and start moving forward....