Can extroverts and introverts have a successful marriage?

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I'm an introvert (w/ a dash of extrovert😆) and my husband is extremely extroverted. He gets most of his energy from being around large groups of people. Me on the otherhand, I can only be around a large groups of people for short time before I'm ready to go. I get most of my energy from being around alone or 1 or 2 other people. Over the past 8 years, we've found ways to create balance between the two. We compromise a lot. What are your thoughts on these relationships? Have you seen any fail solely because of the difference?

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I'm the extrovert and my husband is an introvert with anxiety. We definitely work well together. I just have to remember to be patient and understanding when he hits his limit.

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I am a extrovert and my husband a introvert. We have been together for almost 8 years. His perfect weekend is staying home with me playing video games . where I'm a housewife and get sir crazy being at home all week so  I want to go out and see friends. But we respect what each other and take turns having a weekend where we stay in and then we go out. Its never really been a problem .

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Well my ex was an extrovert and I was an introvert. He always had to party and be around people CONSTANTLY. while I had severe anxiety around more than one or two people and needed plenty of alone time. I also have bad health. So is often be laying in the bedroom, sick and alone while he was out partying with his friends. Mind you we were both EXTREME but on opposite sides. We'd fight a lot over it and it was one of the bigger reasons that we broke up. (We weren't compatible at all) my husband and I are fairly similar but he is slightly more extroverted, he's an armed security officer and so that helps and he hangs out with his buddies a lot, but still makes sure to spend a lot of his free time (he hardly has free time) with me. We balance out! So I guess it just depends on what level and how you balance with each other!(:

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I'm an INFJ and my husband is an ENFJ. We are very much alike with the exception of me desperately needing alone time. My husband thrives being around other people. You just find little times to work around it. The biggest thing that works for us is that on the weekend my husband will take our kids out for a few hours. They get time with Daddy, and Mumma gets time alone. I feel fully recharged and good for a couple of days. I also get an hour or so alone during the days when my boys are napping. I go to group functions with my husband. That gives him time to be social. He also likes to play Magic the Gathering on Friday nights. I don't have to go with him, and he gets to be in a group again.

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Sure, why not. We go to a large group event and what ends up happening is that my hubby is the social butterfly and spotlight in a larger group conversation. Meanwhile i float from small group (1-3 people) to small group catching up with friends. Even at large group dinners he will be entertaining to the whole group as a large conversation, while i have smaller short convos with people near me. I'm a mostly introvert...who loves being in large groups of friends (because i can fade in and out of hiding), and he's an extrovert (who claims to hate people and the spotlight) who just enjoys the attention a large group can bring.

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I'm the introvert and my husband the extrovert. As long as I have down time to myself, or at least relative quiet, I'm ok. But I can't spend all weekend going from here to
There being around people. Our best friend and his wife are the opposite, he's the introvert and she's the extrovert. We like doing things together with them, because while
The two extroverts cut up and act crazy, we introverts can sit back and relax and have a quiet conversation lol. I've been married 8 years, together 9, and our friends are recently married and have been together for two years.

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We are each a mix of both, we just compromise a lot :p there hasn't been any problems

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We are exactly the same! My partner loves socialising and although i enjoy going out for a bit, after a while it exhausts me! It makes him concerned as he can see after a while im not having fun or talking to anyone. In the end i just started leaving events earlier without him. You cant force yourself to be a person youre not although i think his socialness has improved mine.

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Yes! It just means finding the balance. My husband is a homebody and quiet and hates being in crowds. I'm free spirited and bubbly and love big parties and get togethers where there are lots of people. He says I pull him out of his comfort zone and he finds things he likes that he never would've found being an introvert at home and he mellows me out and I've learned being a homebody isn't always a bad thing :)

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I'm about to smack my very extroverted SO! I'm incredibly sick and he's messing with the cats and is uber hyper! I prefer quiet relaxing time. We have a balance. He knows I'm not going to go to his DJ gigs and stay out until 2 or 3am. We're both 40 and my limits are different than his. We've had some fights along the way, but we always work it out.

Can extroverts and introverts have a successful marriage?

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