How do you tell a new partner that you're not on birth control?

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I've been off birth control for about a year now. I'm single and although I have no plans on jumping in bed with anyone in the near future, I've been wondering how this topic should be brought up when I find someone new.

I try to only take medications when absolutely necessary and prefer to rely on natural remedies when at all possible. I first started taking the pill when I was 16 and still living at home. I only continued to take it because I felt it was something I HAD to do. I never felt like it was an acceptable choice to stop. After trying several different kinds and never really finding something I was truly comfortable with, I decided to stop. This is my body and I don't want to put extra c*** in it, I don't have to.

How do I explain this to a guy? I've tried to explain it before, but they just don't get it.

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Get a paragard Iud it's nonhormonal and has been on the marker for 30 years. It's safe and doesn't effect fertility. If you choose to have axe with someone they have a right to know you aren't on BC before the fact.

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why don't you just use condoms?

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Yea when the topic of sex comes up,  just be honest.  Tell him that you are not on BC.  Simple as that,  tell them it doesn't agree with your body.  (for me it turns me into a raging lunatic and there is evidence to back me up)  this is the stuff you cover,  along with hard limits and what your sexual preferences are.  Are you willing to experiment someday or are you set in your ways?  Is the pullout method an option eventually after you both have clean bills of health? Or will you be using condoms forever? This stuff is important to both of you,  get to know your partner don't be afraid to talk About these things.

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When anything sexual comes up make sure you let him know you don't take the pill or anything else. Talk to your doctor about natural BC and condoms when you are ready for sex.

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Just tell him to use a condom. I wouldn't consider not using one unless you were in a solid, long term, relationship where you're comfortable with possible pregnancy from no BC.

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I was never on it and never had an issue in previous relationships. Never discussed it with anyone other than my now husband. No one ever just assumed I was on it. If you're using condoms i dont see an problem.

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I won't take hormones anymore. I simply tell them I am not on birth control and refuse to be on birth control because I don't like the way it affects me. If they don't like it they can find the door.

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You should always use a condom with a new partner until you know for sure he is clean.

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After your sure that you want to be with someone, sit them down and ask how they feel about birth control. The way I look at it is, if your old enough to have sex then you should be mature enough to talk about birth control to one another. I'm sure they will understand where you're coming from. Get their opinion and then tell them how you feel. The reason why you don't use birth control.

How do you tell a new partner that you're not on birth control?

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