To be pregnant or not?

Sigh... I'm on birth control pills. My husband and I are very into our church and want to do more. Also it's very scary to bring a child into this world so we decided for now no kiddos. But I go to church and I see all these babies and I get heartbroken! I know I'm doing it for a good cause but I catch myself "accidentally" missing my pill then reasoning and taking it late lol. My husband and I would love the baby to death if he/she was a surprise... But for now how can a cope?