Weird situation

So my hymen keeps healing so it makes sex painful everytime.

Now I have a few options and I want to know if anyone has any insight on them.

#1 deal with it. It takes me a week after each bd to heal.

#2 pop a baby out that would rip it beyond repair. But we are having problems conceiving so who knows how long that will take.

#3 surgery to have it removed. Would take a week of bed rest, and all other hazards of surgeries.

Now I favor #3 but SO doesn't thinking it will make me looser.

Anyone know if that's correct or not?