New mammas: how's it going so far?

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Motherhood has been no walk on the park I'm sure you all can relate. My LO was born on the 3rd. He'll be 4 weeks old tomorrow. Between being sleep deprived and having no time for myself I am so exhausted! Both mentally and physically. Sometimes I randomly start balling cuz I'm just so darn tired!! I have constant anxiety hoping I am doing everything right and hoping that I don't forget or miss out on anything. And sometimes I secretly long for my old life. And I miss oh God do I miss pregnancy! I miss the excitement of what was to come. I miss the glow. And I miss not worrying about looking fat. I felt so beautiful when I was pregnant! My husband and I are adjusting to things. He's been great about helping out. I'm home and he works. Still when he comes home from work he takes LO off my hands so I can rest for a few hours. I feel selfish about this as he is coming home tired from work, he should be resting too 😐 how are you guys handling everything? Was it what you thought it would be? How are you and SO splitting responsibilities? Congrats to all the new mammas! It's nice that we are in this together! Here's my baby boy

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Our little girl was born 9/6. We had a scheduled c-section b/c she was breech, so I was prepared to have some recovery time. Being forced to not do anything was rough, but I was happy my SO was here to help!
I would definitely say breastfeeding was the biggest learning curve. Everyone makes it look so easy, but it definitely isn't. Thankfully our LO is a great eater/latcher, I just wasn't prepared for the engorgement when my milk came in, so that was when I had my breakdown.
My husband & I also are having a lot of debates with her sleeping. Throughout the night, she starts in her bassinet but she usually starts fussing at one point & after feeding, if she doesn't fall asleep right away, I'll just sleep with her on my chest. Right now I'm sitting up on our couch sleeping b/c of the c-section, but my husband thinks she's going to get used to sleeping on me instead of in a bed. I think she's too young & our dr's have agreed...she's too young to get accustom to it. He still doesn't think so, so we have disagreements almost nightly b/c of it.
All-in-all, I have loved being a mommy though. There are moments I miss being pregnant & having my little companion inside, but the joy she brings me & the love my hubby shows her make my heart so full!!

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If anyone wants to join an awesome support group on Facebook check out Breast, Bottle and Beyond support group. I had my son on 9/5 and I've learned so much from the group!

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Our baby boy is one month tomorrow. For someone with anxiety I've been doing better than I ever expected as far as adjusting to motherhood although I google everything : ) I've had a few short cries when I had a few too many nights without enough sleep but overall I function better than my fiancé with little sleep so I usually have pity on him. I allow him to sleep through the night during the week since he works and on the weekends I get to recharge by getting some solid Z's. I do find myself from time to time missing my pre baby life but oh well no going back now and we wouldn't trade it for anything. But I also miss being pregnant... So so much. I loved every minute of it and honestly can't wait for baby number two.. Eventually! For now I'm enjoying all the days of mall walking with Weston David before I go back to work in December.

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My LO was born by scheduled C Section on the 9th and I know exactly how you feel... We are military so all of our family and friends are over 17 hours away. So it is all us. I cried my eyes out when my parents & sister left me 4 days after she was born. And again when my husband had to go back to work. I would get so frustrated from breastfeeding, she has a bad latch & lack of sleep was just awful. Sometimes I would drop something & couldn't bend over from c-section pain and I would just cry. I felt like I was doing nothing right!! She will be a month old in. 3 days and it has got a little better. But we still have sleepless nights, & there is still frustration here and there. But i know one day she will be older & I'll miss her being this sweet & small. good luck, I hope it gets better soon for all of us.

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My LO is a month old on Thursday I can't believe it already. Born 9/10. My SO works at night so we are both around during the day. I the evening it's all me then late night I'm usually the one that takes care of him unless I wake him up to get LO back to sleep. It's been hard some days when I'm overwhelmed with everything I imagine doing bad things to my little boy but I could never harm him. I feel so bad for having those feelings. I just have to walk away from him when I feel like that. My SO just reassures me it will be okay and he will take LO for a little so I can sleep and clear my head. I'm so in love with my little boy. Just tired.

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Oh and here is my little guy!

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It's been really hard for us as well. Two days after coming home from my c-section I ended up back in the hospital to get my gallbladder taken out. Baby is 3 weeks old and we ended up in the hospital again with her having a fever. We have been here two days already. I'm so exhausted and sore from my surgeries and not getting rest that I feel like I'm going to break down at any moment. My poor little girl is so sick and my two year old son is wondering why his mommy keeps leaving him. Hoping things get easier soon.

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Its pretty hard, harder then I thought. my baby will be 1 month tomorrow and me and my SO split things pretty well I get up he gets up back and forth like that. My SO had a rough night last night with getting our son to sleep so im letting him sleep tonight;) its all about give and take! We love our boy and couldnt be happier!!:)

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We're one week in and for the most part it's been pretty great. She's a great baby and a fantastic sleeper. Where we're struggling is breastfeeding. She's completely rejected me and it leaves me in tears every time we try. My milk just came in on Saturday and I've been pumping, but still not producing enough to satisfy her so we have to use formula too. I'm recovering from an emergency c section too which makes it that much harder. My husband has been great though. I wish he didn't have to go back to work next week.

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My little guy was also born the 3rd! In the first two weeks I had all the same experiences as you. I felt this sense of loss of my old life and would cry randomly several times a day about it. We had some rough nights and I cried then too!!! I actually read a story about a still birth and after I read that all my crying stopped actually, I'm not even kidding. The mom in the story asks all moms to give their baby a kiss when they cry at 2am and think of her daughter.....that cured my baby blues...all that you are feeling is still completely normal and in sure it will get better.

My husband works all day too, I'm breastfeeding so he can't really take over for me but once he is home he helps by changing all the diapers and getting me anything my heart desires! Don't feel bad for your husband helping I promise you are 10x more exhausted then him. A newborn is exhausting and you are feeling a huge sense of responsibility that he won't have while at work.

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