Rant! VERY long rant!

Yesterday was my baby shower, and my family and my husband's don't get along very well. They were civil enough but my in laws totally segregated themselves and not only that they didn't even thank my grandmother or mother for inviting them and hosting this entire thing. They didn't even try to talk to me when I went to go and mingle with them, they just sat in their own little room and had their own little conversations and no one else mattered. Which really upset me especially because my family and I were trying so hard to make them comfortable and made sure I spent more time with them than anyone else because I didn't want to hurt their feelings if I stayed with my family and friends ( at the very least i get along with my mother in law and his other family at least i can kind of get along with for the most part). So to make me feel uncomfortable at my own baby shower and then not even thank the hosts who does that? They just said a quick goodbye to me and left. Didn't say a word to anyone else. And not only that I still have about $1500 worth of things left to get and I can't get anything because his family is holding off until he gets here so he can open presents too... he wouldn't have been at the baby shower even if he was here. He already told me that when we were thinking he might be able to make it. He didn't want to be a part of it at all because it's a "girl thing". It's just annoying because now I'm at a stand still waiting for him to know what I need still. And now all of a sudden he cares and got mad when I told him I'd just get the basics like bottles, first aid kit, detergent, ect. And then when he gets here well go out (if the girls aren't here yet) and get the blankets, and towel sets and other fun stuff like that and he said "oh let me gather myself to buy towels" acting like he doesn't even want to do that! So im going to wait for god knows how long to buy everything still needed and then listen to my husband bitch about how much there is to buy and how he hates babies r us and "can't we just hurry up" and that's IF I can still handle going to the store by that point and if I can't then he's going to have to go out by himself and get pissed that he has to go out to babies r us by himself to get all this shit. He doesn't care, his family does and because they do now he does. Mind you I've asked them to go out with me to babies r us and invited them to ultrasounds or even hang out and they don't want to because it isn't fair to my husband for them to be a part of it without my husband there... I think they are all just holding a grudge because I moved up before him because my doctors were talking about putting me on bed rest and all the travel restrictions I was going to be put on and he works long hours and wouldn't be able to be there to help me or be there if anything went wrong and I needed to go to the hospital, so basically they're punishing me for moving. I'm so annoyed about all of this thank you for reading this if anyone does xD I know some of this may seem stupid but I tried so hard and just keep getting screwed by them and I don't know what else to do. I just feel stuck.