Is it cheating or not...??!??!?!?

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I used my husbands cell phone to look for something on instagram and i found a name on his sesch bottom it was busty bikini ..it was of girls with big boobs and bikinis...after days of fighting about it he said he masturbated with those pictures that because we barely have time and with kids its very stressful and he just had to....i felt really bad and cheated on...like why would he look at other girls pictures....hes a person that would always tell me that hes not like every other guy..that he doesnt need to do that...and then i find this...idk i feel really betrayed and lied....just the thought of him looking at other girls and masturbating is cheating....idk im confused...he totally distroyed my trust and now i feel worthless....has it happened to anyone else...how did you feel...

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I def wouldn't consider that cheating .

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That is not cheating. It might hurt your feelings but that's not being unfaithful

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Nope its not cheating.. Its a usual thing men do to release some tension.. i wouldn't flip over that

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It can make you feel a little down when you stumble across something unexpected like that. But keep in mind that he is with you, not them. He masturbated to those pictures on a screen, he didn't sleep with them. Men are men.

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I know it might be hard to cope with but it's not cheaping... if I didn't have the time all the time I would masterbate too and a little video or pic would help w the imagination... he's not really having sex w them it's simply photos

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Porn is a touchy subject for a lot of women. Most people will tell you not to worry about it unless it's affecting other aspects of his daily life; work, socializing and etc.

I think it's perfectly fine to have the opinion that you have about it but there's clearly an issue he's communicating to you. He's lacking intimate time with his wife.

Don't ignore this.

Push aside the anger and talk to him. Take the time to connect with him on every level!

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I have to disagree with the general consensus on this one. Every individual is different. Every relationship is different. Every relationship has different boundaries. If this is something, you personally, feel is cheating...it might be time to have a talk with him. Explain why it makes you uncomfortable and talk about boundaries within YOUR relationship.

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I wouldn't consider it cheating. That's a scummy sneaky asshole thing to do and you have every right to be upset, but it isn't cheating. Now, if he had messaged up some girl for her busty boobie photos to masturbate to, I'd call that cheating for sure.

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I think you feel bad more for the fact that he told you he was a different guy and he never do that than for the pics, I personally don't feel he looking pics of other girls and masturbate cheating the first time I knew it I feel insecure about my self, like why it can be me, what have those girls that I don't, but after I understand that was something normal,  he choose me and he is with me for a reason, if he need to distract once in a while is good for me, only think that are only pics and we like to look at handsome man also. But yes talk with him about trust because he try to show you somebody that is not

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To be honest i wouldn't consider cheating if he doesn't make actually contact with the women socially or physically. Hes also probably being honest. Just a suggestion but do you guy watch porn togather. Thats watching other people and it seems weird but most people say its healthy to do togather.

Is it cheating or not...??!??!?!?

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