Do I tell him I'm pregnant??

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This is going to be long, I'll try to condense it but please read and please give your input and advice.
My SO who is now recently my ex had to leave me because there is an issue with my age. I am significantly younger than him by 15 years. His ex wife and mother to his 2 kids found out that he started dating me before I was legally an adult. She threatened to call the cops and take his portion of the custody away from him if he continued to see me. So he left me and I understand so yeah it's ok. 
Anyways. I'm pregnant and I only found out after we went our separate ways. Yes it's his because he's the only guy I've ever slept with. I can't bring myself to tell him. Please don't judge I care about him but I don't want to ruin his life by telling him he has another child on the way. I don't believe in abortion I am pro life so I'm planning on moving away and essentially hiding it from him and raising the baby on my own. I still plan on giving the baby his last name but I'm afraid that if he finds out or his ex finds out or if he comes and sees me to be with me and the baby it'll have negative consequences. 
Please help.

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You definitely need to tell him, it isn't fair to him or the baby.
Moving away and hiding the baby from him is the worst thing you could do.
I'm sorry if this sounds mean, honestly I'm not trying to be mean just being real.

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Tell him for sure! He needs to help you support the baby he made with you. Even if he doesn't want to be involved in raising it, he needs to pay child support. Besides, if he was so worried about losing custody, that shows he loves his kids & would most likely want to be with this one too. Either way it sounds so stressful, good luck to you!

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Tell him. He was there when the baby was made; you shouldn't go through it alone. He's a grown man and he needs to figure out how to take care of all his kids.  His eyes were open going in so he needs to man up and help.  Good luck.

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You need to tell him, besides wouldn't u want him to be there for his child? It's best if u keep it real.

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I understand that you are in a tough spot. But children need both parents whenever possible. I know you're worried about repercussions, but that does not negate the fact that this child deserves to know his/her father and that the father deserves to know his son/daughter. What he does with that information is outside of your control, but assuming he knew you were underage at the time, he's gonna have to deal with any backlash that develops. The point is, you need to tell him, your child deserves that much from you. You don't want to have to answer these kinds of questions 10 or more years down the road when your kid wants to know where their father is and why you didn't tell him about them.

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I feel you should do what is best for you and your child, but I also know my SO would be devastated to learn he had a child and I did not tell him. I understand where you are coming from. I agree with the comment above that if you were of age when you conceived then it will not matter now.

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The other commenters touched on the emotional side of this already, so let me add that, from a purely practical standpoint it puts you and your baby in a bad situation. You can't get child support to feed, diaper and clothe your baby without telling him about the pregnancy (or child, if you wait until after that).

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You should tell him he knew what he was doing when he was with you. Here responsible for the baby too. It wouldn't be fair to the child. Yes it will be hard but running away isn't going to make it better

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It's your choice. You do what you think is best for you and your child. Good luck to you. Stay strong :)

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Are you underaged currently? If you take the months from the baby will you be underaged when it was conceived? You should tell him not matter what but if she claims it's his child might be best to deny it. I want to say he is a molester but I cannot judge, good luck.

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