Overwhelmed - Anyone else?

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My baby boy is 5 days old now. The minute we pulled into our driveway from the hospital 3 days ago, I started feeling the effects of the baby blues. Yesterday I started feeling a little better (to the point that I'm able to control the tears) but I'm still so overwhelmed. You think 9 months would have prepared me for this but I just can't seem to emotionally handle all of this change. I have extreme anxiety just thinking about when my husband has to go back to work.

Is/has anyone else experienced this? How did you cope? How long until this new life felt "normal"?

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I feel like I could have written this when my son was a newborn. It is so, so hard in the beginning, but it does get better. I had a ton of anxiety about my husband going back to work as well, to the point where I couldn't sleep thinking about it (not great when sleep is few and far between anyway with a newborn). My midwives encouraged me to reach out for help to family, friends, and I encourage you to do the same. For me, it felt like things got a little easier at 4-5 weeks, and then again at 7-8 weeks and now we're 14.5 weeks and he's a whole different baby than at the beginning. Things will get better, mama. Hang in there, you're doing great!

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You'll get there, momma. It's normal to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, unsure.. And LONELY. I wish there was more of an emphasis on preparing mothers to be on the huge impact of all of these emotions and the tidal wave of hormones surging through our body ON TOP of the physical aspect. It's unfair and completely isolating. I want you to know that you're not alone. You're wonderful. You're capable. You're beautiful. And you've got this. You're going to be an amazing mother. And you know what? It gets better. Let yourself cry, there's no shame in it. Remind yourself that you NEED to eat, shower, and take care of YOURSELF too. That was hard for me.. Especially eating. But it's necessary. I suggest keeping a journal and being completely raw and open about how you feel. You can't help what you're feeling, but you are accountable for your reaction. My heart is with you, momma.

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My baby is 7 days old now and I've just had a melt down because my winter coat doesn't fit me. I feel stupid.

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The first few weeks oddly enough isn't really baby blues, it's the surge of hormones. The first two weeks i had anxiety attacks every evening and it was crazy. It leveled out though after a couple weeks. It gets better. Just take it easy and enjoy your little one.

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I so get it and it breaks my heart that mamas have to suffer through the baby blues at a time when there's so much to be happy about. With my firstborn I was really affected by the tearfulness and sadness - I cried over everything and I'm pretty certain it lasted for a month or so. With my second (currently 12 days old) it lasted maybe 5 days. I really don't know what precisely precipitated the shorter period of sadness. I'd suggest try to get out for even just short walks (if you're medically cleared), strap your baby into a carrier or into a car seat and stroller and get yourself some fresh air. Sleep helps a lot too but I know how hard it is to come by - I couldn't sleep, even if someone else was watching the baby because I was so paranoid that my baby was not happy or whatever that naps were out of the question. Hang in there mama. If it just doesn't improve, please please please address it with your doctor and don't feel guilty about taking medication.

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It's normal. The first two weeks are fueled by crazy hormones and lack of sleep. It gets better. I ugly cried for more than a week after my daughter was born. If you still feel blue after two weeks you should talk to someone though.

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My son is 7 days old and my SO went back to work today. I've been a blubbering mess these past two days thinking about it. Being alone with my child scares me to death. I love him so much and hate these tears.

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I absolutely felt like this. For at least 3 weeks I wanted to just run away. I was sad, didn't feel connected to baby, and exhausted out of my mind. But it got better with more sleep and time. It will get better ❤️

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I felt the same way. I had a c section so I went home with and on strong pain meds. I cried when we got home. I cried the next day & pretty much for a week after. I realized a big part was the pain meds so even though it made me hurt I stopped taking them. Within a few days I started to feel better & was thinking more clearly. I still get over whelmed & I'm 3 weeks pp. My fiancé was great at handling my little episodes. If it wasn't for him calming me down & talking me through what I was feeling, id probably still have the baby blues. The best thing for it is support from a loved one. Don't be afraid to open up & talk to someone about how you're feeling! Good luck mamas! 💙💙💙💙

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Talk to your doctor! They can help!

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