Shamed for not wanting children...
In short, I have never wanted children, and I don't foresee myself ever changing my mind. This is an extremely personal decision, but lately my best friend (who is a gay man) has been borderline shaming me for it. He says something along the lines of, "Don't you think it's ironic that you have the opportunity to carry a child and give birth and you're just throwing that away when I actually want children, but don't have that opportunity?" I don't even know how to respond because it usually gets brought up in uncomfortable, public situations when it's a completely inappropriate time to be talking about something that personal.
In my opinion, just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I'm required to reproduce. It should be a choice, and I don't owe it to my friend to have a child just because he can't. Please tell me that somebody else agrees with me, because I feel so alone and unsupported regarding the fact that I don't want children. I feel like society as a whole perpetuates this shaming when people constantly say "you'll change your mind, you'll want kids when you're older;" I find this statement to be extremely demeaning and upsetting because it assumes that no thought has been put into a life altering decision. Trust me, I've put plenty of thought into it. Let me live my own life without children, and I'll let you live yours. Because if it turns out I was wrong, and my baser instincts do get the best of me, guess what? It doesn't impact your life at all.
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