Lets just say.. A little history first to help understand my rant..

I left my mothers care when i was in my early teens due to her completely.. She worked ALOT, dating a married man who dumped her on any family holidays type occasions (easter, xmas etc) she was drinking lots and drugs were often seen (she was a manager at a PUB), always had parties at home with lots of alcoholics around.. (2 early teenage girls in the house!!!) I never felt safe... she is now engaged to a dickhead who is emotionally and physically abusive (he threw a huge glass Vase at my mother once.. it missed her and smashed on the ground in front of me.. i ended up with small amounts of glass in my legs) I have told her I dont like him at all!!

NOW TO MY VENT..

My first ever long term relationship was 4 years long and was my first. (Age 14-18) He was amazing initially but became emotionally abusive (threatened to kill himself if i left him, stopped taking his meds for blood clotting disorder, many more thing) I also concieved my first baby with him but lost at 9 weeks... I left him literally just after my 18th when i found the courage to leave.. thank god!!

BuT i became an alcoholic.. drinking everything i could every chance i got, even became sucidal.. till a new friend of mine helped me realise what i was doing.. After that i was able to go out, have a few drinks <10 instead of wasted everytime..

On one night out catchin up with my friend I met my now husband who honestly has been my rock!! ♡ He rebuilt me to the confident woman i am today. He treats me amazingly, he supports me as I do with him. I wouldnt say our relationship is perfect but it works for us! :)

But my mother drives me nut by trying to pick out every single thing she decides she doesnt like about hubby..

EG:

*Hubby doesnt earn enough according to her. (He does fine as far as im concerned)

*Hubby has inherited a tooth decay thing from his father, he needa full set of false teeth already so my mother dislikes him because of his teeth!

*Hubbys family is more supportive of us and our relationship.

Heres the kicker...

She has said to me in the past that if we were to have children she would go to child welfare to have them taken off us....

We have been together nearly 9 years (we did separate for less then 6 months to sort out where we were in life and what we wanted in life) We have been married for over 3 and a half years, experienced 3 pregnancy losses together, financially stable, I do have 1 chronic medical condition that will not prevent me having children or enjoying life with them, Neither of us do drugs or drink regularly (only on special occasions) and we have a great support network (his parents and my real father).

So.. how in the hell does she seriously think we would let her take ANY of our children when I know exactly how i was raised and certainly would not want that for my own children!!!! Hubby and I both agree that she will never get unsupervised visits with our children ever!!