First is was talking to other women and sexting them. We finally got thru that (I hope)...but now he is watching so much porn I want to cry.

He never wants to have sex, even when I ask. And I know men have compartmentalized brains according to science but his actions are really affecting my self esteem and my confidence. It's affect me also because we rarely are intimate (maybe 1 time a month).

How can someone like porn so much, but not want to have sex with the person they love?

I've tried so much. I've tried dressing pretty or getting dolled up in lingerie, I've tried just flat out asking can we have sex instead of just hinting at it, I've tried playing with him to get in the mood (but he always says no), I've tried talking to him about how it makes me feel and express my needs/wants for sex isn't being meant (but it doesn't change).

I feel like there should be something I can do to make this issue between us better.

He says it's because he is getting older, but how is it that when he is watching all this porn. That means he has a drive. Thst means he wants to be turned on. That means he does think about sex or getting off.

I feel like something is a matter with me, but I know that probably isn't true.

Confused, flusterated, upset, hurt explain a lot of my emotions right now