Trouble having sex?

Question

So me and my boyfriend have been together for just over 2 years, and we have a lot of trouble trying to have sex. It's almost as if I'm too tight. Like he'll get it in to a certain point, and then I feel a sharp pain, almost like his penis is bending? But he claims it's not. He's tried helping me "stretch" but it's still painful. Anyone else have this problem? Or know what to do about it?

Answer

You might have vulvodynia.  It's a medical condition that affects the nerves around the opening of your vagina and your pelvic muscles. What happens is that your nerves are super sensitive and send pain signals to your brain. Your brain then thinks something is wrong and decides to tense your pelvic floor muscles which makes you tighter. That then causes more pain which just continues the cycle of pain till you completely stop. So all the foreplay and lube won't help.

There are treatments which include:
- a cream that desensitises your nerves especially around the opening.
- pelvic floor rehabilitation which includes kegal exercises which train your muscles to relax ( you can do this by tensing your vaginal muscles for 4-5 seconds and repeating them before, during and/or after penetration) 
- different size trainers (which are these plastic tubes) that help to train your pelvic floor muscles to accept bigger things during penetration. They come in a set of sizes starting with the width  of your pinky to about width of a wrist.
- lots of lube
-botox injections in your muscles to keep them from tensing (doctors don't really like this one but some will do it)
-there's also surgery but that's a worst case scenario (doctors don't really recommend it)

If you feel you might have this, have a Google to find out more information. But all of this is diagnosed and treated by a gynaecologist. So book to see one as soon as you can.

Answer

Could it be because he's going too deep ? That happens to me sometimes it's a sharp pain and it's from him hitting the cervix during sex

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I used to have this problem. I'm not sure what you've tried but when you have your knees bent, try moving them further apart. That should stretch you a bit more

Answer

Use lots of lube. I'm a petite girl and my boyfriend is quite endowed. Without lube, it's very painful for me when we have sex.

Answer

Have you been trying foreplay? 
Maybe you're not getting wet enough so it's uncomfortable and dry

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