Men and sex

Why is it that when a guy wants sex he wants it his way then you simply ask am I going to get anything out of this it you starting his a fight. I mean my husband wants to have sex so do I but its me that gives h him hand it's me that is on top and I get my boobs touched then I say something about and I'm being a bitch and a stinge for asking a question, and it's me starting a fight? Need some advise🙏