For those of you with a husband who doesn't help...

Honestly, what's the point? You brought a baby into the world together. Why is it your responsibility to do everything? Why doesn't he change diapers? Why don't you get alone time too? Do you guys speak up for yourself or do you let your husband's walk all over you? I'll be the first to admit my husband SUCKS as getting up at night. That's a fight I gave up on long ago. But he's a damn good father and splits the parenting responsibilities. I just don't understand why anyone would stay with an uninvolved husband or one you feel you can't fully trust to be alone with your child. Can someone explain?