Relationship advice-help me please
A girl that never even dated my girlfriend keeps texting her and tonight asked if my girlfriend would be her first time 😡 my girlfriend talks to me about all of these messages she receives and shows me them but I am very uncomfortable with this girl asking these things of my girlfriend. My gf refuses to be rude to her, block her, or tell her she needs to stop, she'll only ignore the girl's messages for a while. She just keeps texting the girl "I have a girlfriend" should I be concerned that she won't do anything else about it? I also asked her if she's only avoiding this girl BECAUSE she's taken, like if I weren't around would she go for this girl? Maybe I'm being insecure with that last part but I don't like this at all.
On another note, my girlfriend has a very manipulative and emotionally abusive "friend". But she's trying to form a band with him and a couple other friends. He is the driver for most of these friends and he has all the money in their group so she keeps him around. She told me two days ago that over the weekend he wouldn't stop kissing her, hugging her, and touching her. He tried to force himself on her before. He made a joke about raping her yesterday 😡 she's like "I know this is bad and yes I'm mad, but he was just joking..." THIS IS NOT SOMETHING TO JOKE ABOUT! Am I wrong for wanting to shake some sense into my girlfriend right now? She's been in both emotionally and physically abusive relationships in the past and she says I'm the first person who has treated her right. I want to protect her. I don't want her having an emotionally abusive friendship. I said she needs to cut him out of her life, even though I know he's part of what keeps her friends together. But all she says is "he's in my band" repeatedly. I don't want to be controlling or tell her what to do and make her mad, but he's unsafe and he cannot be trusted. Especially not if they end up alone. I'm scared he's going to do something to her and I am so frustrated that she's not more to stop him. She said she punched him in the dick when he wouldn't get off her this weekend, but she completely objects to the idea of me saying anything to him. She says she'll handle this. But she hasn't handled it so far and things like this have been happening with this guy for a while. What can I do?? What should I say?
Is the fact that she's not standing up for herself just making her an easier target? Does she not care that these people are not treating her the right way? I'm so frustrated with all of this. I know she loves me, but I feel very insecure about our relationship when people threaten it like this. And they are threatening her safety which is definitely not okay. Am I being paranoid or what?? I don't know what to do. Please help.
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