Over reacting? Or not in the wrong? (Rant)

Me and my husband welcomed our baby into the world on the 11th and we got his daughter this weekend so she could meet him. Here is the deal we have been having issues with his ex wife since she found out I was pregnant, not letting him get her talk to her or anything, had to take her to court to start to get his rights inforced about 2 months ago and it has been nothing but drama!!! Always starting crap even as far as when my husband called to say he wanted to get her she said no went to his parents house that is 3 hours away from us to get the daughter because we was bringing the cops to get the daughter! She went as far as pressing charges on his dad for something he didn't do (he wasn't arrested because there was no evidence)....she would send messages cussing him out calling him a dead beat and everything in the book when he does what he is supposed to do and is a good dad she is the one who plays their daughter as a pawn taking her away from them when she don't get her way!! Anyway so his mom gets a picture of her and our son SOs daughter says can I send the picture to my mom? His mom says sure and sends it! I have a problem with it and she doesn't even ask me or my husband who have both said we don't want her laying eyes on him and she does that!!! I haven't told my husband yet but I don't know how to go about saying anything I am just pissed!! Someone who has been making our lives a living hell and you don't even think about asking? If I'm wrong ok maybe over emotional right now but i feel wronged here big time!!