Are you a proponent for young marriage? Why or why not?

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I have always found it interesting how young people would marry long ago - in Biblical times as young as early teens.  I have always thought that years and years ago, marriage was taken more seriously and considered a permanent commmitment no matter what. I also think that teens were considered adults then and had more responsibility, therefore they matured more quickly.

I have always been a proponent for young marriage, if the couple desires it and understand the seriousness of it.  I have never understood cultures messages to live it up or travel, etc before marriage.  Why wouldn't you want to do all of those things with your most beloved spouse?

Just my thoughts - I'm thrilled that I was given the chance to marry young. I don't necessarily think it's for everyone though. Curious about your thoughts!

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I suspect we married younger and had children younger as life expectancies were shorter in the olden days.
I'm certainly pleased I waited till I was older till I married. If I had married who I was dating when I was in my teens or early 20s it would certainly have ended in unhappiness and divorce. I don't regret those previous relationships but I wasn't mature enough to commit to someone long term back then. I should add that I was engaged once previously when I was in my early 20s and that didn't work out.
This is just my experience though and if you are lucky enough to meet the love of your life in high school you are very lucky. :)

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People were still setting up 12 year olds in the early 1900s. Wasn't so long ago. You were living a shorter life at the time and marriage was still seen as beneficial vs strictly for love. Particularly among wealthier families. Plus if there was any benefits to be had, they were helping out the families, couple and their children...not the state.. Weddings were real ceremonies shrouded in symbolism and superstitions. Kids were trained and thrown into adulthood way earlier. Even toddlers manners were taken seriously. You're lucky now if a teenager has table manners. Things were a little different. But then, sometimes you still get teens with a real grasp of the world and what they want.

Married at 16 btw.

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I got married at 18.

I sometimes wish I had waited.

I would not encourage my children to marry young.

Neither would I stand in their way should they decide to do so.

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We grow and change a great deal from our teens and early 20's into who we are for the rest of our lives. Or we should anyway. Who I am at 31 isn't who I was at 18. Sometimes a truly solid couple can grow and change together. That's rare though.

I'm glad I waited and established myself before choosing who I want to spend the rest of my life with. I honestly see that as taking marriage more seriously. I'm still not married yet, but I waited for the right person to make a commitment to, instead of marrying someone before I matured.

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Biblically young women were often married off to older men as property (either way they were property)...I'm all for people marrying whomever whenever but I wouldn't bring up biblical marriage in the equation..biblical marriage examples are pretty crappy.

Like"oh hey your husbands dead? Now you must marry his brother" "oh you were raped? Marry the man to save your families honor!"

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My husband is 19. He was 18 when we married. And he is a pretty great husband :)

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I am not. There is enough research and scientific study to account for why. It was easy for those in biblical and ancient times to marry for life. They didn't love that long. Getting married youn was no big deal because their lives were in fact a lot shorter. Comparing ancient times to now is silly when we have the capacity to live until 100 instead of 35.

Statistics and science have shown that our brains are not fully developed until age 25. It shows that our ability to reason and make choices before age 25 is not fully developed. It shows impulsivity, immaturity, and bad decision making. None of these things make marrying young a good idea and statistically the incident of divorce for those who do marry before age 25, especially if they are uneducated, is quite high. If both party's are over age 25 and educated, the statistic drops to about 30% failure rate which is about half.

This is not to say it is ALWAYS a fail. Our closest friends have been together since they were 15, lost their virginity together, and grew together. We are in our 30's. We know two couples like this. It's clearly possible. I just wouldn't do it, I don't think it's wise, and I do think there is merit in waiting, getting an education, and getting to know yourself alone before you join together with another.

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I was 19 when we got legally married and I am so happy that I did. I love my husband dearly. He is my best friend! We have talked many times about how we should have been married years sooner. We found each other when I was 16 and he was 19.

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I don't think their is truely a time when you are fully prepared for marriage. 
I think people should get married when they meet the person they feel is right. Whether that is at 19 or 35.

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I'm a proponent of mindinf my own business unless one person's bad decision starts negatively effecting more than several people.

Are you a proponent for young marriage? Why or why not?

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