My fiancés mom abandoned him when he was an infant because she was an addict. Left him to be raised by his dad and grandma. I love his family including his mom who has come back into his life after 15 years sober and wanting to fix the past. She lives across the country from us and I've never met her just know how badly her decisions have affected my fiancé because I to was abandoned by my dad. While we both have forgiven our parents that made bad decisions it makes having a baby difficult. When I post updates on Facebook I only tag my mom and his dad. I feel like their the only two grandparents that will be involved(besides their significant others). I will message his mom on big updates...appointments and health checks. I just don't think or feel comfortable tagging a woman that hasn't been really involved or "earned" her grandma title besides being blood. I do the same for my bio dad and noone bats an eye because they understand.

Last night I posted because my fiancé finally felt out baby move. Awesome moment for us and him. I tagged our parents involved and left it at that. His mom proceeded to leave nasty comments on the post about how I'm not including her. Of course it ruined the moment and made me cry(hormones). My fiancé messaged her and told her that we will do things our way because the situation isn't normal or easy. She got mad and told us to "live our lives". She made things uncomfortable and now I don't want to tag her in anything or even message her.

Am I being emotional and overreacting? I don't want to be the reason he gets hurt again.