Boat or bump?? I need to vent

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Hey ladies I need someone to talk to about this... While my husband is so supportive and listens when I need to get something off my chest... My friend is pregnant and due in January and all she talks about is how she lost weight and how she is so glad she is not huge etc... She has no idea that I am pregnant and I don't plan on telling her that I am until at least 3-4 months. Or until I'm ready to start telling people!! I am just feeling shitty about myself I don't think I have gained weight and I'm not so self conscious about how I look etc but I just feel like she won't be supportive or have good words to say to me about my pregnancy. She doesn't really know how to hold back with her words anything that's on her mind she says. What if she says omg your huge? That won't make me feel good. I just needed to vent about this and hope I make sense 😣 in the picture i am 8 weeks

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Don't let what others say effect you. Every pregnancy is different. Your value is not based on someone else.

I've been told I was huge since 13w. Now at 21w I have only gained a total of two pounds, but my baby is low so it shows more. He is a week ahead in growth. I do not take offense. I am huge...but I'm not fat, am healthy and have a larger baby so I'm not offended. Pregnancy is not always pretty so no need to treat like a beauty pageant. Beauty is only skin deep anyways...

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Girl you are all sexy...why would you even waste your time worrying about her!

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U look beautiful I can't wait to be in your shoes!!! And when you tell her for your sanity maybe start it out how u did this post. For example: "I didn't want to tell you because I feared you would say something about my appearence". You know throw it on yo her before she can even get a word out!

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Okay first of all, you look perfect! Also, congrats on your pregnancy 😊 but, as I saw in another comment; a "friend" does not judge and/or insult you based on anything, let alone your pregnancy weight. And I don't know if I misunderstood, or if you said your friend was bragging about losing weight WHILE pregnant.. But anyone mature enough to have a child should know it's NOT good to lose weight while pregnant, only gain in order to have a healthy child, with a healthy birth weight. No matter how much you gain, always remember that as a woman, you're a miracle worker.. From growing the life of another human being inside your own body. So, don't sweat it. & surround yourself with positive people that make you feel good! ❤️

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Friends don't insult eachother. Especially with such a sensitive topic like weight. Not ok

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I lets just bloat. Let me share my experience... I had a ton of bloat during my pregnancy, by 13 weeks or so my bloat looked like a bump, but it wasn't. My belly was round and wide and I was retaining water, gassy, and constipated... People told me and still do that I was showing early but it was just bloat! Even when I was really early like you my bloat was the same. It's okay, now I am visibly pregnant at 29 weeks and I was pretty pregnant looking since 20 weeks.  Just relax and enjoy. I dressed my bloat up like a bump and that helped. Also, cut off negative people at least for a while! Don't let them ruin your pregnancy!!!

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I wouldn't call her "friend" if she talks down about you.

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You all are so positive and so reassuring I think I just needed that. Happens to be that today I'm extremely sensitive. I can't wait to have a bump and enjoy every second of my pregnancy!!

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I am a fat girl.....due to hypothyroidism. I lost about 25 lbs a few months back...but due to med change gained it all back plus some. I just found out that I am pregnant after a mc a couple months ago as well. I am extremely bloated and gassy....but what I am getting at is just be happy with you.

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Bloat 100% but I would find a new friend.

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