What if my boyfriend is ready but I'm not

Question

So I'm 17 and still a virgin, but my first boyfriend isn't a virgin. 
I've always had the hope that the first time I lose my virgintity they would be losing there's with me...but Doesn't seem like that will be the case

I really like him like crazy, but I'm not comfortable with myself enough to move things along (not that I'm frigdit) I just like to think I have morals and I worry a lot about my body and self appearance and actions.

So I'm just afraid if he tries to touch me...and I know I honestly just don't want to or that to happen because I don't believe my mentality could handle it. (With my anxiety) so please help me

Answer

Ok this is going to sounds crazy I know!

So I went on a date with this guy and one of our first discussion we had was about me being a virgin an he was not. Well I made it very clear to him I was not in this for sex but to get to really know him and see if I could spend my life with him after I said that his comment was I don't think that is fair. My reply was we not ment for each other because we do not look at things the same way. Anyways answer to your question if you feel like you are ready than do so but do not do it because of feeling pressure from your boyfriend. Of he truely cares he will respect everything you want and that is hug h because I have yet to find the guy that is willing to respect my wishes.

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Make sure YOU'RE okay with it. Honestly, it's not as big as the media makes it. My boyfriend is eighteen and was quite sexually active before me (16 year old) and I was a virgin. He was really sweet and considerate about all of it and it was romantic and painless. I loved it. Talk it over with him first and make sure you're both comfortable with it before you make that commitment. You'll be fine girl:)

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Okay first just want to get out of the way that you can have sex and still have morals...anyways, please please don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. You don't have toga be sex you don't have to do anything you aren't ready for. If he doesn't respect that then he's not the guy for you and you can do a lot better. Wait until you are emotionally ready to handle sex and when you can actually enjoy it because you shouldn't be anxious about having sex, you could be a little nervous the first time sure but sex should be a positive fun experience and if that's not what it's going to be like for you right now then don't do it! Go with what you are comfortable with

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It's good that you are taking into consideration the way you feel first. This is important. If you don't feel ready, that is perfectly fine. If he tries to force you to have sex with you or gets mad at you for not wanting to have sex and staying a virgin, it's a clear sign that he is very immature and considers himself before you. Make the right decision and stick to your desires first. :)

What if my boyfriend is ready but I'm not

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