How have you got over a break-up?

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I just recently (2 days ago) got my heart broken as my ex broke up with me because he was 'unhappy' and felt a bit 'smothered'. For the past 2 days even in work i cant stop crying. I have this feeling of being so alone now. Although we went out for only a year and a bit i still have so many memories like a holiday for example which haunts me as its all i can think of. I keep asking myself what i did wrong and thinking that im never going to be able to find anyone new. Ive always had a negative image of how i look so i was amazed he even wanted to be with me. We fought quite a bit but always made up but what hurts me most is that im only after having my 21st birthday and he has broken up with me just before christmas (which is my favourite time of year). I dont know how to deal with this and i feel so sad all the time :(

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I'm sorry this has happened and just know you will get through this and be able to move on... The best thing I found to do after a break up is going out with friends... Getting all done up and just "pretending" to enjoy yourself (fake it till you make it).... They say it can take up to half the time you were with someone to truly and fully get over them... Keep your head up and just do you 😘

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I was in a much longer relationship... 6 years. And then jumped into a 2 year relationship... it was the worst decision I made by jumping into a relationship so soon as I did not heal.

For me, after the 2 year one... I jumped into counseling and worked on improving myself. As everyone says only YOU can make yourself happy. And after going through counseling, I believe that 100%. T helped me figure out who I was and who I wanted to be and what I expected of a significant other. I found MYSELF.

Don't get me wrong, it wasn't easy, it took time. But within 2 months I was back in the dating life and was actually having FUN dating. I wasn't looking for anything serious (but I also wasn't looking just to hook up with people) I just enjoyed meeting new people because I had new confidence in myself.

4 months after starting to date and 6 months after the breakup, I met someone that I connected with enough that I wanted a relationship. 3 years later now and we're married and I couldn't be happier.

It's all about taking baby steps, you can do it and this is just a hump in the road dear.

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Figure out how to be confident and secure with yourself. Once you figure out how to love yourself and be confident and content being alone and single, the good men will come running towards you. If that is how you feel, he probably did feel smothered. You made it HIS JOB to be your happiness. No one can take on the responisbility you are asking them to. You have to do that for yourself. If you know how to be happy single, you will be so much happier in your next relationship.

I learned this the hard way. And it was not until I truly grasped this that My husband came running, and now I am happily married. I still enjoy being alone, so it is not a big deal to me if he wants to go on a hunting trip, or work overtime. I enjoy it. He finds my independence sexy.

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Agreed meeting people is good just to temporarily mask the pain . But in the long run you need to focus on you. Workout to make yourself feel better , hang with the girls do you ! And respect yourself ! Going out clubbing and sleeping with other guys in the long run just hurt more . ( personally) lol

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I think letting yourself mourn the loss is important. You guys dated for a long time and it's normal to feel all sorts of ways after a breakup. Give yourself time to heal. I remember when I broke up with my first love it took a good while to feel like myself. Going on dates might help take your mind off him but also spend time with girlfriends and enjoy being single for s while. The best is yet to come.

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What always worked for me was seriously just to let myself grieve over the loss. I was with my first love for 8 years so when he was gone I felt a huge hole in my chest. I felt like the world had been ripped from underneath me. I dated around and enjoyed having a social life with friends but I felt empty still. I "fell in love" with about every boy I was with after that. I slept around. And in that time I realized I definitely didn't love myself. I needed to love myself before anyone could ever love me. By the time my boyfriend that I'm with now came along I had stopped sleeping around and stopped dating and finally found a confidence within myself. He and I have been together 5 years, we have a 3 year old son and a new baby due in February. My first love broke up with me in 09, I met my soul mate at the end of 2011. So it took that long for me to mourn his loss and learn to love myself. He and I are friends now and have both moved on. There's no amount to how long you'll grieve and hurt and you should never make yourself feel unworthy or anything. Once you know and love yourself the right person will definitely love you too. Best wishes.

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Dated someone for three years--horrible breakup, but I'll spare you the details. I cried, I ate, I tried meeting other people, drinking, and hanging out in a bad crowd. Honestly, it was the best thing I could do for myself was stay busy doing things that make you happy. Improve upon yourself. You will notice how much better you feel and look, and so will others. Focusing on yourself, finding hobbies, and hanging out with family and friends is the best thing you can do for yourself. Love yourself. ❤

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It is hard when you first brake up with someone, I had my heart broke when I found out my ex of 5 years was cheating on me I thought I had the perfect life with him and our two beautiful kids, it killed me but I had to be strong for the kids I used to cry most night when the kids where in bed, I ended up getting close to my landlord he used to come over most night after the kids where in bed but I didn't do anything with him as I new it wouldn't end well, but 3 years on after the brake up I'm stronger person now you just take everyday as it comes and it will get easier x

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Honestly when my ex broke up with me I just didn't talk to anyone. I cried for one day and just isolated myself from everyone to the point where my dad wanted me to go to therapy. I just needed to be alone and after a couple of months I felt better and two years later I found my future husband. Everyone is different tho you will get over the break up and find someone way better.

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Time. The only thing that worked for me was time, the longer we were apart the better I felt. It was rough at first, but the pain of betrayal gradually faded away until there was nothing left but indifference.

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