Your thoughts??

Everything seems so contradictory to me. One senerio is if someone cheats while drunk they are called all sorts of names and are degraded. But people say that no one can give consent when intoxicated. So just because someone says they had sex while drunk with someone other than their so they are automatically bashed, but wouldn't it not be purposeful cheating because they can't give consent. Or how if someone comes out about their self harm they are condemned as attention seekers and emos but if someone else comes out about an eating dissorder or depression etc they are praised(seen this happen at my high school). Its like people have to fit into a certain category or something. Idk if I'm way over thinking things but it just seems like a lot of bullshit inequallity for everything. Even gender issues and mental illnesses and such. But I'm interested to read your opinions on this matter