My mother in law and I used to have a great relationship, but now, other than being mostly polite to each other, we don't speak. Here's why... I have a special needs step daughter who lives with us full time. MIL doesn't believe us about her mental health issues, and refuses to follow our parenting lead, despite the fact that we have our daughter in therapy and she sees a psychiatrist regularly. (She knows it all, knows better than we do, and acts like she's God's gift to parenting. The stories I can tell about things she's done to come between our daughter and us would make your head spin.) My in laws moved 11 hours away, so her influence is no longer an issue in our day to day parenting. She has great intentions, however she doesn't grasp that we need to be a certain way with our daughter. (She has ADHD, oppositional defiant disorder, and a mood disorder that's trending toward a potential bipolar disorder diagnosis. The structure in our home and with all interactions with our daughter are crucial.) With that being said, I am expecting our first. I am a very private person when it comes to my home, and when the baby comes, I don't want anyone but my husband to be present. My parents have also moved away. My mom is planning to come when I have the baby, but she will be staying with friends so I can have the privacy I need. His mother keeps asking to come here for the birth. My husband explained to her that I don't want anyone staying at our home, and I want time alone with my baby. She is still insisting to come, saying she'll sleep in our daughter's room, get her ready for school and pick her up. She claims she won't interfere with the baby, but I know that's not true. I do not want that at all. I want my wishes of privacy to be honored. I told my husband that if she shows up against my wishes, I will stay in a hotel with the baby until she leaves. Again her intentions are good, but she's very overbearing and controlling. I wouldn't put it past her to just show up at our house and think she's going to stay here. With a special needs child and a newborn, her unwanted interference will be more than I can take. I appreciate the offer, and I know it will be hard to have the baby home with my step daughter's issues, but that will be our life. Any suggestions for how to handle this?