I have been with my ex on and off for around 4 years. I know now that that will never happen again as it was a very one sided and toxic relationship. I would blow him, like 100% times we had sex. Throughout the relationship I expressed wanting him to go down on me as I have never actually gotten to orgasm when we had sex. He gave me these sexist (and false) reasons why he didn't want to, like how vaginas smell bad and I women take way to long to orgasm. I recently hooked up with him and again he wouldn't this time either, telling me that vaginas were gross, except, of course, to have sex with. I haven't talked to him since and I am still angry with myself that I let him treat me that way for so long. I am slowly getting back to the dating game, and going into sexual relationships I have adopted the "I am not going to go down on them unless they go down on me" thought. This may sound harsh, but I am so tired of putting up with sorry ass guys. Any ideas on how to enforce this/ sniff players out? Thanks,