Am I wrong? (kind of long)

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I was gonna post this in the pregnancy group But they might kill me for what I'm about to say so I'll put it here. 
I'm currently 14+3. Due in June, I love my baby and I can't wait to meet him or her but when I go out or to someone's house and they have loud, bad, obnoxious children it makes me wonder if I really want kids. I know that sounds bad but ill behaved children give me anxiety. Not the typical crying or being hyper. I mean these children are horrible. Running around the house breaking things, hitting their siblings, screaming at their parents (no I'm not doing that, I don't care, I hate you etc). crying for absolutely no reason, refusing to clean. leaving the house without asking and coming back after dark and I know 80% of that behavior is bad parenting But it still makes me scared that I won't be able to tolerate my child. I know I'll be a good parent, I know the right and wrong ways to discipline a child but I'm afraid I might get one of the unbreakable children lol. I don't know if that makes sense or not. I'm afraid my child will pick up a bad habit early on and I won't be able to break it. Am I wrong? or is this a normal fear first time parents have?

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I have 2 kids and am pregnant with my third. Somedays i feel the same way as you about having a 3rd. My kids are generally well behaved. They have their days, but nothing crazy. I see other peoples kids and wonder if I want to deal with that. It is so much easier to deal with your own kids. You get to raise your child how you see fit. I think your worries are completely normal.

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You're pregnant, this anxiety is quite normal. 😃
Don't worry too much.

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Ya know the pregnancy groups are rough when people would rather ask the CC ladies for help😅

My relatives have all gone through the anxiety feeling with their pregnancies. After they had their kids they're better:). It's a really big and sudden change for people! Totally normal to get anxious over something like that.

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It's not all black and white. Parenting is tough. Kids aren't perfect. They seriously don't know how to handle their feelings and emotions until a particular phase. It's a parents job to teach these things. There are a ton of bad parents out there, a ton. But even the best kid has awful days.

I have two kids and a third on the way. I try not to judge

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My husband was watching a movie yesterday and there was a crying baby, and he said " oh god shut up" I was like 😳😱😱you're having one in the summer lol😂😂

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It a normal fear for both new and old moms lol. My daughter is 2 and I'm due with my second in January  and I often find myself hoping that baby girl #2 isn't like baby girl #1 personality wise, don't get me wrong I absolutely love and adore my daughter but her personality is off the wall, she's loud and extremely outgoing and for me ,being the laid back person I am, having a kid with a go,go,go personality is exhausting, it's hard to keep up with her. Lord knows where she got her personality from because it certainly wasn't from me or her father!

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My step son is a "little monster" and im hoping our daughter will be much better behaved than he is. He's been shuttled back and forth all of his life and it really is no wonder that he's a brat.

I think it'll come down to you and your expectations of your child. You will have expectations and enforce them as you wish. I'm bound and determined to not have any repeats of his nonsense behavior. Fingers crossed.

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I get it. My friend has this little boy who is like REALLY bad and she has no control over him. He makes me cringe but it just reminds me of how I don't want to be as a parent.

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Normal fear. I was afraid of that with my son and he does act out but it's a behavioural issue that were having him tested for adhd because everything we've done is not working and it's not that he's misbehaving it's a bunch of things. When he doesn't eat he gets nasty. He used to be very physically violent towards me. Now most people unless they knew my son and knew what I go through every day would just see bad parenting with a misbehaving child.  A few people have come up to me and said it's okay your doing a good job handling his outburst because they've probably experienced it before, other people have blamed me and said I need help and to raise my son better. 
Not everything is black and white though, just remember that. Some days your child will drive you nuts and you just want a break and other days it's like wow.

Am I wrong? (kind of long)

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