Cancer has been devastating. I've had so many people close to me with it. My SO hasn't ever had to deal with it till February of 2014 his dad (who he is also considers his best friend) was diagnosed with blader cancer. My brother in law has 2 kids which my in laws raise, so they are more like kids than grandkids to my father in law. So when he was diagnosed with cancer almost 2 years ago my SO decided we'd talked about having kids in the future enough that we should start trying. I was 24 at the time & he was 31 & had agreed now was good as ever. Well along the way of us trying his dad went thru chemo & was cleared this past summer. We then became pregnant at the end of August after trying for 18 months, all the joy that filled the entire family was amazing! Until October rolled around & we lost the baby. When we were still getting over that we find out the cancer is back. My father in law goes for surgery in the coming weeks & starts back on heavy chemo. My man is just so torn up these last few weeks over these events. I don't know what I can do to make him see it'll be ok & we will get thru this. Any advice? I've dealt with several people in the past but to console him thru it is much harder